Anger
 

Are you an angry person? Do you ever get to a point where you lash out at others or something? Can you control it?

I seem to get really angry now and again. I have really strange mood swings and if I'm in "one of my moods" as people like to call it, the slightest thing seems to trigger me off and everything irritates me, annoys me and I can't bare the sight of people because I think I'll lose it with them if they say something that winds me up.

I've gotten into a few fights, not a load but a fair few fights and that's due to me not being able to control myself when I'm being pushed.

Mostly though I'm able to control it and rather than punching somebody, I punch a wall. I've broken my knuckles in the past doing so because it's the only way I'm able to control myself and that's by lashing out.

I know it's something I need to try and sort out, I know I shouldn't let things get to me so easily and I need to try and calm myself down rather than punching a wall or throwing something but it's easier said than done because when I'm wound up, lashing out seems to be the only thing to calm me down.

That said, I'm generally a happy person ... I'm not a maniac. :laugh: But I do seem to have mood swings every so often.

Anyone have any similar "moodswings"? Or experienced anything related to it?

Very rarely I go into "Hulk mode" VERY rarely

I'm a very hateful person. I hate a lot of things, and I swear frequently.

I also have a few moodswings where I snap, but I don't really get angry.

I guess frequently hating things and swearing unleashes my anger so that it doesn't bottle up.

Usually Id agree with Shaun but I'm pissed right now so everything is fine! Actually me and my sober self aren't friends. He doesnt even like the same girls I like and he's a bit of a prick :joker:

And how the hell did my karma reach 20?!

lol dont complain :D

I've added to your karma before Chewy. Only because you make some good topics :spin:

I'm pretty hammered!

Anyone want to go to a party in sheff this friday?!

I do get angry at times; I think every one of us will have a moment whereby we totally lose it. some of us (hit out) or (shout and scream) or just (bottle it up inside) and probably take it out on someone else. I have had my share in life of doing all that and many times I have learnt to regret that. but like they say (when you've dropped an egg, it will untimately break) too late to repair it now; the damage is indeed done.

that is the problem with getting angry; you react badly to a situation in the heat of the moment. I know a friend who did that to his best mate and he chose to bear a grudge after that and it never got any better. both became too stubborn to look beyond the anger incident; so a life of permanent (not speaking) followed. pretty silly really; but for some it is just their way in life which is a shame.

a lot of it comes down to believing in the bible and faith in jesus and god. try to look beyond the mistake and repair the damage; rather than let it rule your life forever more and let unforgiveness rule your lives; but that can be a rare occurance in modern day life; as today life moves very fast and in the digital age; many think life is cheap and friends are only a second away; probably on myspace or bebo or other chatroom mediums; forums etc. something has gotten lost along the way and to try and work out what it is seems pointless to many today; as sad as it may seem.

when I do get angry; I personally would not resort to violence against another person unless it was a (last resort) situation; like someone trying to attack myself with violence. then; in that moment I simply would have no choice; but other than that it would be in the form of words from my mouth or written in an e-mail or letter. I have been known to smash objects in a fit of rage. my bedroom; when I was younger took a hammering on an odd occasion; when I was really angry. then I was forced to clear up the mess; usually regretting it after I broke something which was precious to me. but it's all too late; hindsight; hindsight.

there really isn't an answer to all of this anger; as we shall all fall foul to it at some stage in our lifetime. we just have to try and look back at what we did and remember it for next time round; but to be honest; we shall do it all over again and again and again and again. us angry basta*ds eh.

lol I went to a party on Saturday and came on TiBB afterwards:laugh:
(Sorry for going off topic)

Grrr anger:devil::mad::laugh:

I don't think anger comes down to beliving in the bible north... anger is primal and comes before any rational thought!

Aye, bringing the bible into an anger debate is rather weird (No offence)

Damn shame nobody is near sheffield tho because I really will invite anyone! I've been on tibb a few times after nights out. It's quite funny. Obviously I cringe in the morning at what I wrote but oh well!

I know that anger is not about believing in god and jesus or not believing in them; but if you are a believer; then after your moment of rage and anger you may be more inclined to forgive; as that is what is written in the bible. forgiveness. and that is what you believe in; because of your faith in that.

I apologise if my post was rather unlear. it's a little late and tiredness has made me rush it a touch

I'm completely sober too.

Ah I see, I usually just forgive people because I dont want any bad feelings between us

Well I still get angry (only human) and I forgive but I don't need any faith to achieve this. I'm sure you understand, you seem inteligent.

Not really. I prance around like a daisy.

thats a good idea and there is nothing wrong in doing that. bad feelings can turn into something ugly and I've been in that position and regretted it. some actually enjoy it. I guess it comes down to the individual and what they are really like as a person.

I'm quite forgiving really; probably too forgiving; but thats fine for me.

:joker:

(only because I imagined that line in a welsh accent)

Why is everything in a welsh accent funny?!

Hell yeah I am an angry person. The dog taking to long to get a pee can make me lose my head. I might get angry but I am able to keep it at a level where I do not take my anger out on people who do not deserve it, I tend to fester in my own filthy mood until I am feeling more able to speak to people. Those that know me tend to just leave me be until I settle my nasty self down.

Oh my God Sunny, were too similar its untrue. I ca soon snap and it will say and say until my head has calmed. If I dont take time out it will become worse. I generally take myself off for a walk or go into the kitchen and obsessively clean. It de-stresses me, if anyone was to come near me for I had settled my mind the won betide them

Most of the time I'm fairly laid back but there are days where nothing major has happened but I just get pissed off with everything and everyone.When I'm in one of those moods I try to just keep out of people's way and listen to music or go and lift weights to try and get rid of the anger.

I get angry when people push things with me. When they can't just say something once and move on with it. When they start going over and over on the same thing and won't let it lie. That's when I lose it normally. Very rarely hitting out though. I must say I have done in anger before. Doesn't really make you feel very good about yourself after the incident though.

We the person in question is hardly normalk is he :wink:

:laugh2:

I thought they were white as the driven snow

:rolleyes:

I'm not an angry person, but I am quite an aggressive person. When I feel someone has taken the p*ss but not in a good jokey way, I feel compelled to hit back. My closests friends will talk of a line that you dont cross with me. Its the way I am. Someone I consider to be a friend will get away with quite a lot, but the moment they cross the line - There's going to be problems.

I manage to maintain a balance of being a contemplative , physically peaceful , fun loving , love spreading person with being an irratible , bitchy , complaining , hateful person - mostly played up for the sake of entertainment.

So yeah , im pretty peaceful on the inside , but the whole ' **** you , **** this , **** that , and **** your other silly **** ' thing is too fun to ignore.

Yes I'm an angry person and I can hardly control it. It's something quite hard to live with because at anytime I can shout or break something if I'm upset or if someone told me something which upsets me.
But most of the time, people don't know why I'm angry as I don't say it lol so it makes things more difficult.

I get mood-swings a lot of the time, I'm impatient as well which doesn't help. Sometimes I have days where if someone isn't doing something the way I want them to I get angry.

I lost my temper today, when one of my freinds pushed me over a wall for "a joke" the same freind (who is a girl) has been kicking and punching me (which is annyoing) so I couldnt help myself after that happened

I am usually the happiest person you can meet, but some people have to push the barriers so far

Yes, I am an extremely angry person which is weird because I'm mainly in very good moods and probably one of the most happy people you will meet. I still do a lot of bitching and pointless rants, but those two I am usually happy at the same time strangely enough. But I am really aggressive. I'm extremely easy to wind up and if I'm pushed to the limit then to put it nicely I'll just kick ****** out of whoever has done it without thinking. But a lot of the time I don't know what I'm doing and I can't remember it. I never realise what I've done until after I've done it but even now I still can't remember. Its just a freeze in time from before to after. There have been plenty of stories about me and things I've done in a bad temper and I really do not remember any of them.

My aggression is why I started doing boxing, it helped quite a lot. Weight training does it for me as well but I think doing boxing training is better as I don't box anymore.

I'm glad I'm not the only one who feels that way because sometimes I feel I'm misunderstood. I can lose my temper at any time if things don't go in the way I decided to or for something pointless but which one hurts me and not the other people.
That could be explained by the fact I take things too seriously and I know that then sometimes my family or friends don't even want to tell me things lol and that makes me angry.
And by the way, every argument going on I'm mostly involved lol

Well I lost my temper tonight at my daughters school. I have left a vile message on the school answer phone demanding someone call me tomorrow (by which time I will be calmer lol). My daughter is on the school netball team, they had a game at another school this evening. After the game the teacher drove them back to the school in the mini bus, she had stood chatting to the teacher from the other school for so long that my daughter missed her bus. So what did the teacher do, she got in her car at the school and went home. I am not able to drive just now and hubby is working miles from home this week. Daughters school is 7 mile from home so she was stood around in this dreadful wind, for nearly an hour waiting for another bus.

I am furious, at what point do they decide they have dispensed with their duty of care for my daughter. Believe me heads are going to roll when I speak to her head of year tomorrow. I am furious. A 14 year old girls stood in a rural village waiting all that time in the bitter cold. Seriously I am so angry about it, god help the school.

im exactly the same.I can only recall about 3 times in my life where ive gone totally psycho mad,im more of a getting angry at small things in small doses frequently kind of person.Sometimes i do get wound up over nothing though and i get so frustrated but i just can`t help it.If I cant do something properly i get annoyed and like tonight there was nothing AT ALL for tea and im so annoyed.Stupid I know.

That is well out of order Sunny. You give 'em what for!

I am sure they will have to step out of the room to be able to clearly hear my rant on their answer machine. I bet they draw straws over which saddo is going to be the one to phone me.

LMAO

Well the steam has settled now I have blasted the school for the way they just dumped my daughter. They were full of apologies, shouldnt have happened, but my point was it had and what steps were they going to take to stop it happening again. I said I wanted the teacher in question to apologise to my daughter for stranding her. They were not keen on that idea but when I suggested I would contact the LEA they agreed it would be ok, and better dealt with in-house.

Poor teacher must have had a banging head, I didnt shout but I made it impossible for her to speak and when I did let her I butted in. So now that is done calmness is resumed but I feel bad for having a go at her when she had done nothing wrong (oh the shame lol)

Glad you got things sorted Sunny. Sometimes it takes a bit of forceful persuasion to get things done.

:joker: can just imagine one of the teachers apologising to your daughter! We all know how stubburn teachers can be.