Homophobia.
 

I'm Bi right, and everyday i hear the word "Gay" as a "Cuss" a way of offending people, sometimes me. I understand that some people can't except gay people because of there religion but they don't have to be so rude about it.

This one religious girl at school, the quite girl, thought she was really nice, was talking to her today in science. We were talking about an open lesbian in our year. She said " OMG! Lesbian's and Gays should be shot, sorry yeah, actually, im not." It was really rude and uncalled for. This other boy started humping me, really humping me, enjoying it, and then i said "Stop man I'm trying to do work!" He continued to hump. Then i said " Stop! I'm busy! Do it later." In a very sarcastic way! He stopped and was like "Everyone hear that Loukas is gay!!!"

What's the point, people cannot help how they are, they cannot choose there sexuality. I like being BI, I like having girls best friends, to help them with there boyfriend problems and stuff. But i can't be who i am at school.

I can't express who i am. I have to be a completely different person, locked in as a straight boy. I guess that's life sometimes..

What do you think of homophobic people?
What do you think of the word "Gay" as an insult?

Awww *HUG*

:).

im probably a bit homophobic, but ive not met any gay people before,

but seriously im not sure how i would feel

:). *Hug*

Life can be a bitch.

I'm gay :]
LONDON GAY PRIDE 2008 SATURDAY<3
-had to say it-

Uhm.
I don't mind people using gay as long as it's not meant in an offensive context.
However, in my opinion, there's no justification for the word 'fag' [unless referring to a cigarette]
&That is one word I find extremely offensive [considering I'm someone that isn't easy to offend]

I also believe that words such as '****' and other variations are totally unacceptable as it makes a mockery of the sexuality, and personally, I find that quite offensive too
I can take it as a joke but only in very few cases when it's meant as a joke, and delivered that way; However I don't believe it should be used to refer to gay people.

I used to get homophobic abuse at school and I wasn't even out.
All my mates know and there's no issues with it.

'Gay' as a slang term for something **** does not indicate homophobia , im gay and I use 'gay' myself as in 'that gay ****ing toaster'.

Homophobic people are twats though. Utter twats. Who gives a **** who ****s who as long as we aint harming anybody else? Then they say in this chav way ''Coz it aint natural innit''... ''well how is it not natural?'' ... ''coz you gotta get a girl pregnant at age of 15 like me innit , dats natural'' ... ''right mate''.

Seriously , theirs no excuse for homophobia.

Children are immature and I wouldn't expect the playground to be gay-friendly any time soon.

I sometimes use "gay" as an insult - but I have a few gay/bi friends who get annoyed by it so I try not to use it.

I personaly think though , as long as your in the right circles , 2008 is a great time to be gay if you ignore all the fundamental religious bollocks. Being gay is even 'in' [annoyingly so] in many pop culture outlets. Its almost seen as being a cool thing to be.

Im always told im incredibly straight for a gay person , however. I dont take kindly to gay people who think they are special because they are gay. I know mates who , once turned gay , ditched their life long male friends to go and hang out with the lasses and be a girl. The 'look at me im sooo ****ing campxXx!!!~~' crowd annoy me to death.

Not cool.

I understand what your saying but when they call me Gay they mean Homo, Like they see it as a disease or something. They call me other names, fag and sugar puff, just to name a couple. I agree with everything else tho.

So you wont go over and be friendly to the guy,as you're scared of what others may say to you?
I suggest you change your user name!
Stand up to bullies!They soon stop.

im not offensive i just dont know gay people so i dont know how comfortable i would be around them, where im from there is quite a bit of prejudice, but i dont get involved in that!
is queen offensive?

Sugar Puff is laughable.
That's.. pathetic.

If you see in my previous post, I've stated that ****+the variations are offensive, IMO.
&Fag is just unacceptable.

Talk to a teacher about it?
I'm sure you can do something about it as it'd be homophobia?
I was using a teacher's laptop at school and they can get reported for it and stuff o__O
It's like. on the personal records along with racism etc.

I personally don't mind Queen being used unless it's aimed at me.
I don't like it [unless used in a jokey context] because it makes me feel singled out but I don't think it's offensive.

&I agree with Spitfire.

I understand what you are saying. If they are insulting your sexuality , that aint cool , man. The point I was making was that its sort of automatic to use 'gay' as a slang term for stuff we dont like now , and I dont particularly find that offensive as people dont mean to be homophobic when they say 'this is gay'.

Almost all the swear words we use come form something sexual anyway , if you stop to think about it :joker:.

I think it's pretty much the same as words in other debates on here,**** and ******.It depends on how it's said,in what context.
A lot of Gays use the words themselves.I always remember a 'Gay pride event'that i once saw in London and the slogan that was being shouted was 'we're here,we're queer'.

I'm sorry you're made to feel that way. Life can be really cruel sometimes. You seem to be coping very well so far, though. Regarding your questions, I think homophobes are generally either very religious, or ignorant because they have led sheltered lives. People should be left free to make their own choices and decisions, and yet we seem to be restrained by certain 'ideal' ways of living our lives. And most of the time, they're not any better.

Also, in the case of religious people - despite the fact that they may not agree with the concept, or that they wouldn't become gay/bisexual themselves, surely they should be tolerant of other people and let other people choose their own paths. It makes no sense for people to shut out others because of their sexuality. Like any form of discrimination, it's wrong - but unfortunately it exists in the world and you have to cope with it as best as you can, whether it be through confronting others or just ignoring them. As for the word 'gay' as an insult, I have used it in the past but realise that it can be considered offensive. Words generally tend to be thrown about really loosely amongst young people today.

In my circle , not at all , in fact , queen is hillarious. Its just used when a gay person does something particulary gay or self parodying.

im really confused with homosexuality, ive never understood it!
what age are u wen u realise you dont find women attractive?? surely just in your brain it is set to find the opposite sex attractive?

It's the homophobes that should be shot!

I hate the term gay as an adjective like, "ugh, those shoes are gay". I decked a guy before when I heard him say thats our maths book was gay. (I was having a bad day).

There are plenty of other words you can use. Sh*t, rubbish, vile, repulsive, horrific, mingin, disgusting, rank, rancid. Using the word gay only show that you have an extremly limited vocabulary.

Like several other threads, it's about context.

I have a couple of gay friends who often use gay in a negative context,

e.g. "My effin gay computer just crashed again".
"Damn stupid gay coursework! Gay, gay, gay, how gay is that lecturer, giving us 2 days to finish it"
"Dude, don' be gay mun"

vs

"Oh, he's nasty because he's gay"

My opinion on homophobic people is that they just have certain sets of beliefs in which gays/lesbians don't fit in to their ideals of 'normal'. It's unfortunate, but life's a bitch.

On the upside, the world is a big place and there are plenty of people that will accept you for who you are.

answers?

My teacher is gay. She's openly lesbian and i she knows im BI. I tell her, she has huge Assembly's about . It does nothing. It goes on there record and stuff but yeah they just conitinue. I ignore them. I will continue too. What's a guy to do. Our head is a Lesbian to.

Controversial opinion here but I support homophobia in a way. Some people find it to be immoral because of the religion and the bible, and some religious people can't change their views. I'm semi religious and believe in certain things, but some people are sort of contradictory (myself included) who say that its immoral to be gay, yet they're the ones having sex before marriage and arguing with people etc. But the most hated family in America just take it to extremes. Theres beliefs (and whether agreed with by the majority or not people are entitled to them) but then theres just sickening and an embarrassment to an entire religion.

However, I can see both sides and I don't see the point in it. It doesn't affect me in any way so who am I to judge who other people want to jump into bed with? Men can sleep with other men, and I won't be sleeping with other men but still why do I have the right to condemn someone else for it, because its clearly not going to affect me?

Anyway my opinions split on it, do I go from the Christian point of view but then contradict myself for other aspects of my own life or do I view it from the "I couldn't give two sh*ts what other people get up to" perspective yet go against God? Its OK for complete atheists to say "God isn't real, follow your heart" etc but its just not that simple when you're in a religious frame of mind.

I believe I'm born gay.
I realized it properly at 12, but looking back, I was probably as young as 4/5.

There.. isn't really much to not understand.

It's not very difficult to understand, lol. But just to help:

I began to realise when I was twelve. I had been called gay by the majority of my classmates by that time anyway. The reasons for this were 1. I didn't play soccer (Vile sport, I'd sooner kill myself) and 2.The majority of my friends were girls.

Also because I was about ten times more intelligent then them. (I'm not being snooty, we took an IQ test).

Good on you too.
Keep your head high and thing's will get better.
It is hard in school, but it does get easier.

Wow @ lesbian teachers.
We had three openly gay ones.

I'm not entirely convinced about the nature argument. I did sexuality to death in psychology and there was some very overwhelming evidence in favour that suggests its nurture (upbringing) not nature.

Some would say cursing itself demonstrates a limited vocabulary , so I dont think you have a point :thumbs:.

'Gay' as a descriptive word for inanimate objects is just a meme that has set itself in the minds of the people so that they automaticaly believe in it without questioning it [See : Religion].

Who knows. Some people are born gay. Some people become gay. Get a straight person in a room a la Clockwork Orange and expose them to men and who knows , maybe they could turn gay.

Its pointless trying to figure out how the mind works. :thumbs:

i get on better with girls than boys, that doesnt mean im gay!?!?

I agree that environment plays an important role in sexuality.

John Barrowman's[<3] doing a documentary on whether you're born gay or not, which should make interesting viewing.

WOAH OMG.
Sorry TOTALLY OF SUBJECT - BUT DID THE LESBIANS GET IT ON?.

And DAREN OMG, GAY TEACHERS - GANG BANG?

Sorry, back on subject.

I dont get it as much as i used to.
And im not out.

Bear in mind I was listing words that someone who is likely is resort to using gay would perhaps be more open to.

Nobody said it did.
It's just often presumed that guys that have a lot of female friends are gay.
Obviously that's one of many stereotypical characteristics.

My boyfriend's VERY straight acting.
If you met him, you'd think he's straight.

Religion complicates itself. Your bound to contradict yourself and end up as a sinner even for being homophobic , the way everything in religion overlaps itself.

Why bother with teachings? Jesus was a man who absoloutely existed , and its safe to say he was down with ALL the peeps in the hood. In fact , he was hundreds of years ahead of his time with all the turn the other cheek stuff. Just keep it simple.

Screw the old testament. If your going to be homophobic due in part to Christianity , your going to have to be mysoginist and racist too [its all in 'the good book'].

Just because there's multiple gay people in one environment, it doesn't mean they're gonna get it on ;D

Either way, there's no conscious choice or decision to "be gay".

I think it's not a case that I get on with girls it's more that I don't get on with boys.

From experience, boys immediatly hate me. I don't know why but they do. That's fine, I've come to terms with that.

Oh come on , you know we are wilder than most. :joker:


Come to think of it , I have straight friends who love to go to the gay clubs with me , simply cause the party is better [and the free amyl nitrate helps I suppose].

see this is my religious argument

i consider myself a christian and in the old testament it talks about the importance of procreation, yet throughout the bible the message is clear about loving everyone around you and treating everyone as equals, thats why i dont fell offended by homosexuality, even if i dont quite get it