Have You Ever Been Cheated On?
 

I thought I would start a thread about something that most of us may have experienced or have an opinion on.


Recently myself I split from my fiance because I found that they had betrayed me while I was studying abroad for only 4 months. I was so devastated and it shattered my world and tore my heart as I wanted to get married and be happy. I nearly even failed my final year at uni, but luckily my friends pulled me together and I passed with a good grade.


I don't think I can ever forgive somebody that has cheated on me, and lord knows I have tried, but I don't think the trust will ever return or that I'd be happy with them ever again.

Has anyone here ever been cheated on, or cheated, and how did they cope/deal with it and their ex.

I have been cheated on... a few times. By the same person.
We are friends now.. which really helped...
The first time he did it... he told me and said he regretted, I believed him and gave him a second chance..
He then did it a few weeks later with the same girl (I didn't know the girl, I had never spoken to her or heard her name mentioned before). The second time he said the girl forced herself on him and he had no control. So being a fool I stayed with him for 3 more months... it wasn't until one of his close friends had to tell me that for those 3 months he was with her and me...Hes still with her...and I'm single.. and MUCH happier :)


Oh and I have NEVER cheated... I would hate to make another person feel the way I had felt... :)

Im sorry to hear all that turtle, wow.

And yeh im with you i couldnt forgive them im the revenge type.

but nope ive never been cheated on somehow lol

and ive never cheated on any of the girls i been wit.

Im a nice guy :laugh:

yeah i cud never cheat on a girl, i expect the same back

Nope, never been cheated on and never cheated. It's one thing I feel strongly about, I'd never do it.

lol i don't know... Glad your ok though, love is never a easy path but whatever happens you have to pick yourself up and keep walking the path of life, you never know who you will meet on the journey.

That was really nice.
Great shout Andy... :)

i have and it feken hurts:bawling:

What they don't know won't hurt them... :whistle:

Im sorry to hear.



I do and dont wnat to know the feeling.

It would be bad news either way i took it lol

Once and they regretted it deeply.

I THINK I was. I only had other peoples theories to take in. I knew she was close to this boy though, so I believed it and dumped her. What a horrible day that was. We've been back out since though and its not so much an issue anymore. I don't think she really sees him that much now anyway.

Truth is cheating is common place by both sexes....Most of it is never discovered.......Saw a lot of it at work in offices and it's amazing what use can be made of a little used storage rooms.....Office girls (Married) and the contarct window cleaner. Secretaries and contract builders.......Husband collecting wife from work with children in car not knowing hours before she had been caught in the act.....Poor unsuspecting husband.

The older you get the more you learn life aint as sweet as your ideals may think it should be.....

What you just said was made scary by the fact Peter was watching me as I read it...that avatar is so disturbing lmao!

Sorry, I hope your better now. :hug:

I've been cheated on once. He didn't even try to hide it. Like if your going to cheat at least try to be discreet about it. We were supposed to go to France this summer too. I stuck with him for almost 2 years and he cheated on me with a slut. I'm still bitter.

Aw, ukturtle. :(

Don't worry, she doesn't deserve you anyway!

Nahhh...although, I did hear that some of my girlfriends didn't really like me from all of their "BFFs" so I took some thought into some of it and dumped them.

Have I ever been cheated on ? Nope.

Have you ever cheated ? Oh yeah. :spin2:

Yep I have been, many moons ago when I was just young. It hurts like hell.

I've been very lucky, never been cheated on and would never cheat on my husband, not even with _Tom_ :whistle::laugh3:

I was cheated on and I have (extremely ashamedly) cheated and I've been involved in someone else cheating on their boyfriend many times :sad:

I have a terrible history of affairs/cheating :sad: Don't judge me please. :bawling: lol

:shocked:

I have but it turned out for the best, she was with some lad for about 3 or 4 years, then they just suddenly split up. I was with her for a couple of months after that but when you're in a relationship for that long its inevitable that the 3 or 4 years will outweigh a month or so. Shes really happy now, shes got exactly what she wanted off him which I didn't want to give her (but I'm not going to go into detail over it).

On more than one occasion I've been the person that someone has cheated with :whistle:

I've also cheated a few times, some because I was bored, other times for revenge and others because I can't say no :tongue:

But yeah, I'm not squeaky clean when it comes to relationships but I've settled down quite a lot in the past year.

Aw, I hope your feeling ok now! :hug:

I've been cheated on and it just the worst feeling ever, it just hurts.
My boyfriend cheated on me and went off with my best friend over 2 years ago after we'd been together for 8/9 months. It took me over a year to get over him. We've been back together now for nearly a year and he always gets upset if it's ever mentioned. It's soo hard to forgive and forget and I found it quite hard to trust him again in the begining knowing what he did to me the first time round, but right now I completly trust him.
And I've never and would never cheat on anyone.

Nope.
With my first boyfriend so hell no.
I trust him completely, he's said that he's cheated before [i may add - totally wasn't his fault] and he felt awful afterwards and promised he'd never ever do it again.

I couldn't bring myself to do it either unless I was getting revenge.
I believe in revenge over forgiving+forgetting.
So if he was to cheat on me, I'd probably do it back to him.
Sounds awful but that's me :\

I can say though, I love him, he loves me, and we trust each other completely.
I've been put in various positions by other guys where I've been given the opportunity to cheat, but easily brushed them off. I don't love them. Simple as.

ukturtle, i feel really really sad for you now :(

I have cheated and i still feel awful about it.
First time was with Toader technically ... we had just split up but i made out with him about 5 seconds before someone else and broke his heart. But that was with James ...
But this year, there was someone, who I kissed. and then I stopped. then I dumped James and went out with this guy for two weeks.
I was incredibly, incredibly stupid and I am SO lucky I have such a wonderful boyfriend who forgives so easily. He forgave alot before me.

It made me realize alot of things about myself, aswell.
I didn't realize how much it affected my boyfriend until Sweden where one day he admitted that though he trusted me, he didn't trust me as much as I did and he'd never ever believed i'd have done something like that, ever.

I still get really upset talking about it, and I feel REALLY, really guilty. and I NEVER feel guilty. ever.

Being a cheater was an absolutley horrible thing to do and I'm going to spend the rest of my life making it up to James and I can honestly say I would Never, EVER do that to him again.

ukturtle, i feel really really sad for you now :(

I have cheated and i still feel awful about it.
First time was with Toader technically ... we had just split up but i made out with him about 5 seconds before someone else and broke his heart. But that was with James ...
But this year, there was someone, who I kissed. and then I stopped. then I dumped James and went out with this guy for two weeks.
I was incredibly, incredibly stupid and I am SO lucky I have such a wonderful boyfriend who forgives so easily. He forgave me a lot quicker than I did.

It made me realize alot of things about myself, aswell.
I didn't realize how much it affected my boyfriend until Sweden where one day he admitted that though he trusted me, he didn't trust me as much as he did and he'd never ever believed i'd have done something like that, ever.

I still get really upset talking about it, and this was at least 3/4 months ago. I feel REALLY, really guilty. and I NEVER feel guilty. ever.

Being a cheater was an absolutley horrible thing to do and I'm going to spend the rest of my life making it up to James and I can honestly say I would Never, EVER do that to him again.

Don't really feel guilty about Toader, though. He was a freaaaak.

I've been in two relationships and been cheated on both times. Meh.

Nope.. I'm too sexy. Jokess lol but no I aint.

yerpp lots and lots of times

I don't know how you cope with being cheated on guys but if it happened to me one day, I would cut the girl's head off and make her feel like **** in front of everyone with a huge scandal in the street or in front of her family.

No, luckily.

Ive never been with anyone to be cheated on but i reckon id be wayy to scared to cheat on someone expecially if i really cared about that person id feel horrible even thinking about it. So no i would never cheat xx

That's what I thought too but sometimes, feeling are stronger and I guess you cannot help it whatever people say 'You shouldn't have done it'. But if I didn't want to, I wouldn't have, it's just that, you don't control yourself LOL

i have been cheated on it was my daughters dad we had our wedding booked paid for and only 5 months away from being mr and mrs when i found him out that he had been cheating on me with his friends sister (it hurt more cos it had been going on for a long time) so the wedding was canceled we split and i kicked him out stupidly i let him convince me few months down the line he had finished it with her and we gave it another try for our daughter but he did it again with the same girl cos he loved her and not me and even told me at that point he had never wanted me to keep our daughter or get married to me :bored: have been single for 2 yrs on the 17th sept
i would never cheat though cos being on the recieving end of it i wouldnt want to hurt someone like my ex did to me

aww i am sorry to hear that that must have been such an awful thing to go through.Some men (alot of them) are just pigs,people like that should be strung up by their privates