Age Gaps.
 

What's your opinion on Age Gaps in a relationship?

For me; I'm totally accepting of most gaps. Obviously if someone's 40/50 something, and the other is underage, then yeah, I'd find that quite difficult to accept. However I've always been brought up around them. There's 20 years between my parents, and between my sister and her current boyfriend. Her ex-husband was 30 years older than her, whereas my other sister has a boyfriend who's 10 years older. Growing up, it's always been normal to me. Age is just a number and all that.

Currently; I'm in a relationship with a male who's 7/8 years older than me [he just turned 24, I'm almost 17], and I'm perfectly happy. Obviously, with me being 16, it restricts things [such as him being able to go to a pub/drink etc] but it's never been an issue. He felt awkward when I was attending school but now I'm at college, he feels a lot more comfortable.
I tend to prefer guys older than me anyway, but I couldn't date anyone younger.

Well, that's my opinion anyway.
What's your thoughts on age gaps?

You can't help who you fall in love with.

Omg it's so ridiculous, there is this guy in my year in school and he's going out with a girl who's 3 years younger and everyone calls him a pervert. I'm like "Lighten to **** up, she isn;t nine!".

And you have the whole Jaimie Lynne saga. Her boyfriend nearly got charged with rape due to him being 17 (over the age limit in the state where Maddie was conceived) and her being 16 (under the limit)

Well, you can kinda.

Anyway - I dont think I'd ever go out with anyone two years older then me or younger then me. I just find it creepy.

Personally for me, I wouldn't date anyone 7 years older/younger than me.

I don't know why 7, but I just wouldn't. I don't think there's a problem with other people though.

age don't bother me, as long as they fulfill my requirements of being a perfect partner.


My ex-fiance was 6 years older than me, and my first proper boyfriend in r/ship was 16 years older than me (I was 18 he was 34)


The older you get, the less age becomes an issue i think.

Well 2 years isn't really a big gap.
I would consider a gap is about 5 years and more. I don't think I could either, I always have to be the older one in a relationship and I have always been the older one.

as long as its within the age of consent then whats the harm age is only a number
i have been out with bloke both younger and older (almost twice my age) i actually prefer the older man
what i dont get is the frowning on relationships such as 17 years and 30 years but if it was a 30 year old and 45 year old there isnt really any issue
oh and princess i agree you cant really help who you fall in love with

My mum and dad have an age gap of 8 years, which isn't bad, but is the same as yours.

One guy in my class during secondary school...his dad was 77 and his mum 44. That means the dad was 33 when his mum was born...that's disgusting.

I don't have a problem with age gaps
I know alot of couples who have age gaps in them.
As long as people are happy does it matter what a number is?

:shocked: I would be very embarrassed if my parents had an age gay of 33 years.

i dont think its disgusting there must be proper love there

Or money. :whistle:

I don't think age gaps are a problem (unless it's a HUGE age gap like 17 and 84 or something).

I personally like to go out with people my age, I don''t really like dating anyone younger (A year younger then me is the youngest I've ever been out with).

I find BIG age gaps creepy untill like 25.

A gap of more than 10 years is where it starts to get a bit strange ...

The most I'd ever do is a 3 year gap, and ironically my current gf is almost 3 years older.

Too true... you cant help it.
Obviously there is a point it gets a bit weird, and age gaps are more acceptable when you get older. Just like... a 25 year old and a 20 year old is normal. But a 20 year old and a 15 year old is wrong.

Well yeah anything is fine once everyone's legal. I can't imagine myself ever being in a realtionship with a huge age gap but I can't exactly exclude myself from the 'you can't help who you fall in love with' thing.

LOL some of the BS in this thread is unreal. So 10 years isn't creepy, but 11 years is? Makes sense.

I really couldn't care less if a 18 year old was going out with a 50 year old ... it's their business. Me personally, if I fancied them then age is irrelevent.

I don't see much wrong with age gaps, as long as it isn't someone who's 50+ with a young teenager (that kind of thing). When I was 13 I was with an 18 year old.. we didn't dare tell anyone because I didn't want him being called stuff. My boyfriend is exactly a week older than I am, so not much of a gap there :tongue:

Age is only a number, it is about the relationship. If you find love and freindship in someone 20, 30 or even more older or younger than you then who is anyone else to judge you.

I think we all get a little to hung up and the age issue and limit our possibilities with regards to relationships.

There is 5 years between me and my man but I dont see that as a age gap at all. Its like nothing really, its just where we both sit in life is the same at that time.

When I was 18 I fancied the pants off a 14 year old and that FREAKED me out! I was like omg I am a natural born pedo!! But he acted and looked older so I think it just depends.

Obviously when law comes into it you need to be careful as there is an issue there but age shouldnt really matter. Especially as not everyone acts there age, people go through different things in their life which can make them wiser than others of their age or it can make them less mature on matters.

I think huge age gaps are skank like 19-40 but ones of like 2-4 years are fine.

What about the 5-18 year gaps? Fine? Skank? Does it actually matter at all providing both are happy with it?

So it's wrong because the government says so. What if they're not having sex? Would it be right if they were Dutch where the age of consent is lower?

hmm well i don't really mind TOO much either way
don't think i'd like to go out with a younger boy thoguh

when i was in year 11

i was going out with a year 9

she was 14 i was 16

thats the biggest gap :spin:

I dunno, I get kind of intimidated by the idea of dating someone more than 2 years older than me. That's not to say I wouldn't, it's just the idea of it scares me a little at the age I'm at. I don't see anything wrong with a massive age gap between the two people, my parents have a 4 year gap and my older brother and his wife are 5 years apart, but I don't really know many people who have a bigger age gap than that. I think it just depends on each person's wants and needs; I look for intelligence in a person because I need intelligent conversation.

Age gaps are subjective. Many people, like myself, would say 2 years either way is the limit, because they're influenced a lot by other people's opinions. It takes a great deal of confidence to date someone who is a lot older/younger than you, I think.

I just think its pervy when someone is 19 and going out with a 40yr old.

Theoretically I have no problem with massive age gaps at all - it's all about maturity levels, where age really is nothing but a number. As long as the people involved are 16 and over, there's no issue. However, whilst I'm OK with it theoretically, I really don't know if I personally could have a relationship with someone who was 40 or over when it came to it. I guess it's just one of those things where when it happens, it happens.

Yeah I share a similar view to you Ash, I don't have a problem with other people's age gaps, I just can't imagine myself being in a relationship with someone who was hugely different to me in age.

I agree that once everythings legal it's fine,but my friend is 15, and since she was 14, a 24 year old guy kept wanting to go out with her, and kept saying wait till she's legal and stuff butI kept thinking why does a 24 year old MAN take interest in a little girl?

This probs has nothing to do witht he actual topic but meh

What's perverted about it if both fancy each other and both are comfortable with it? I don't see anything remotely perverted with that.

Its weird and its not practical. Both are at different places in life and the 40 year old is old enough to be the 19 year olds parent. Its just wrong on so many levels.

No I'm 100% fine with age gaps. My mum and dad had about 20 years between them and I've never known a happier couple personally. Also my best friend is 16 and I'm 14, I know that's not much of an age gap but because of school it feels like it is but the age makes no difference, we are best friends because of who we are, not beacuse of how old we are.
I'd be completely happy with going out with any boy/girl 10 years older than me. But only when I turn twenty because otherwise that's just perverted :angel:

I wouldn't do it myself but I can see where he's coming from. It'd feel like you're dating your parent or something.

There was a 7 year age gap between my parents.....In theory age gap should not be a major issue. Adults are adults regardless of age.....However in practical terms the bigger the age the more potential problems may arise.....

For example with a very large age gap one will lose your partner from old age just while you are relatively young.......Also old age sickness will cause mental misery for the younger one watching an elderly loved one fade away......

Age is just a number but from a practical point of view I think age gaps that are really wide should be avoided......

I think it's a bit cringy but thats just me, I'm never interested in anyone more than 2/3 years older or 1 year younger but thats just my preference.

I do hate when people purely go out with people a lot older or younger just to be 'different' or to seek attention.

"weird"? How so?

To people with a narrow mind it's wrong on so many levels.

And who says both are at different places in their lives? Does that not entirely depend on the people involved?

I wouldn't do it myself either, cause I couldn't name a 40 year old who I fancy, nor anybody over 30 really, but who are we to judge anybody else for fancying and 'falling in love' with somebody older than themselves? Like people have said, it's a number, nothing to get too hung up on, nothing to even concern yourself over as if the couple are happy, surely that's all that matters?

And to you it may seem like you are dating your parent, but that's you, others who are slightly more broadminded would look at it completely different, and plus, if they are in love, age means **** all.

This is not me preeching from personal experience cause I really don't know what love is at all, never been in love, but I know that if 2 people are happy, regardless of their age, so what? We are living in the 21st century, it really is nobody else other than the couple's business, and if they are happy, surely that's what matters at the end of the day? Or should they be begrudged happiness because of a number?

I'm into my DILFs these days and I am only 19 :rolleyes: