How did it go this far?
 

10 or so months ago, we would have been happy to call this forum a community, nearly everyone got on well, and wasnt afraid of posting something contrevertial.

10 months later, divides split us all up and members hate each other.


So, what the hell happened here?:conf2:

Certain people joined

Hmm, I think its kind of got better than it was a month or so back, or have I missed something?

For me its better now, I think you will always get people 'excluded', last year this time I was a TiBB reject (More than I am now :laugh:)

I dont' hate everyone sometimes people need putting in there place.

Yes... certain people. :pat:

A TIBB REJECT i don't get that part of your comment,how are you a reject??

I joined yesterday and this site has been one of the most unwelcoming places I've ever been to. I disagreed with someone's point yesterday and they started calling me argumentative and started arguing with me as if I don't have a right to be here. Then later on I got called "dumbass" for no good reason. I've never been to a forum like this. Is this how all new members are treated?

Who was that?! I'm not surprised LOL

Seriously, be lucky this isn't the Britney forum. If you posted something negative you'd be told to go kill yourself. :hugesmile:

Aye, I know what you mean

Some people dont even give people a chance

Compare the members from now to this time last year and you've got your answer

TiBB has changed for the worse in such little time, mostly because of younger members joining I think (mind you, I can't talk, I'm only 14) but I agree that TiBB has become tripe in recent months.

not been here that long but i have noticed it becoming more and more like a playground with a lot of the petty arguements etc all over peoples opinions :rolleyes:

So 2008 members are to blame? :laugh: Oh I could name a few!

Ahh sorry to hear that.. im sure this was always quite a friendly place? Anyways, welcome to tibb :)

And yeah ive deffo disliked tibb more than i did a few months ago. I noticed certain members have changed and become quite unfriendly. And some people bite your heads off for having an opinion. Fair enough debates are healthy but dont take them too far. I know i only joined in January so i havent even been here a year yet but i still notice things. And i know other members have been upset by certain people on here too.

hehe thanks, that was more of a joke, but last year kind of time I wasn't very liked because of Sam & Crew :tongue:

Tell me about it..

All I done was introduce my daughter to this site, post a greeting and let people know how I was doing in hospital...

That was'nt just, that was 4 months ago, and she and I were villified and almost thrown out, neither of us posted anything insulting to any other member, in fact quite the reverse.
So its not just new members or old members coming back after assuming new identities, its the same old MSN cliques that gather on the same evenings and for one reason or another decide amongst themselves to "target" someone or some other clique, and then bring it here to the forum.

I for one would have a complete blanket ban on MSN chat here, and keep my fingers crossed it helps cool a few people down, but blaming new members is wrong they if anything have nothing to do with problem this at all

If you learn to not get so emotionally involved on here, it's fine. By that I mean don't declare somebody on here as your best friend, don't get into arguments, don't be rude, don't post your feelings etc. because all of those things are open to other people who can do whatever they like with the information you give them. People throw strops and "leave" then come back because they want to see how much attention people paid to them, or they have a "best friend" who's "upset" they left. It's a load of nonsense - I've left before, but not in a "I hate ___ so I'm leaving way" - about a month after I joined, I was ill and didn't come on for a month, and then between Big Brothers' I've left for months at a time. People didn't care I left, and I didn't care that people didn't care.

Moral of the story: don't get emotionally attached!

Sam as in SamSam not me yeh lol :P

Are you joking? People actually get attached to members on a TV forum? That's ridiculous!

I have noticed it being very cliqey around here, people gang up on new members like happened to me yesterday for having a counter opinion.

You could say TiBB has become a Mad World :tongue:

Yep. It's a minefield of sorts on here sometimes, there are a lot of members on here who are still quite young and really highly strung because they've not matured yet (I don't mean that in a condescending way!) so there are a lot of "fights" and so on.

:bawling::bawling::bawling:

Me andy and david all joined about 4 - 6 months ago lol.

*joined in 2007* so don't blame me :tongue:

Not like the good old days eh plus in the past many have brought their msn tripe into the forum, people come and go but we should ask the old skool members if the forum is any better or worse.

You're a very funny guy you know. You were the one who was rude towards me in the first place. You come from nowhere and telling me I shout crap and I'm not objective, and not in a nice way, you're the one to blame. Period.

And as a lot of new members, you think that, when you're in a debate, it's actually an argument.
I thought you said this forum was that awful that you didn't want to stay. :rolleyes: I call that an attention seeker.

I agree with Mark and Matt, some people joined and put me off. I don't post that much since this summer because the forum was terrible during Big Brother.
I feel like Chewy, it's getting a bit complicated to 'speak' out loud like we used to do.
After all, it's a forum, nothing more, nothing less.

i only come on to talk about big brother/ x factor ect anyway..
i dont see any arguments or anything:/

Exactly. I just stay out of the majority of this stuff, and I think I've only ever participated in one TiBB game, and it was more hassle than it was worth. If you stay out of things like that, you don't get involved in any arguments. It works for me!

I stay out of TiBB games;
A. Because of arguements
and
B. Cause I simply cba having to do them

-feels somewhat targetted- :|

You dont seem to argue too much and i doubt this would be aimed at you...

No need, you iz a good member :thumbs:

tut tut always gotta be about you :tongue:

I know, but when people say like "Its the people who've joined this year" it does feel like it. :sad:

and thanks Chewy :hugesmile: haha

not to offend anyone but id say its probably people like:

edited by mark: please don't 'name and shame' like that, it'll just cause problems.

I admit that I possibly had a slightly uncompromising undertone but you started the hostility by accusing me of saying things that I hadn't - that's very unfair in my book.

It's a forum. Don't take it so seriously.

It's always had it's problems, and there have always been members who cause problems. It's no better or worse than it was the year I joined. If members want to stay here, they just have to ride out the storm.

I've dished out a fair amount of insults in my time here, but I've taken them in return too.

My advice: Develop a thick skin, and try not to take an argument too far or you may find yourself with a 16 month ban. :laugh:

:blush2:

It;s the forming of cliques, people who will back someone up in an argument regardless of their personal views or vote for them in a game because of loyalty.