Genuine Advise Wanted..
 

I wanted to ask you lot for advise because my friends are telling me to do different things and im just sooo confused. I am asking for advise so if you are going to write bull*hit please save it for a different thread..

Please..

Just over 2 years ago i met a guy at my school after bumping into him in the lunch line.. I looked at him and really liked what i saw.. He said sorry and smiled, then walked off. The following week was Easter break and we went on a sports trip to Italy with the school.. When we all gathered to get on the coaches i noticed he was coming too, i was eggstatic, at this time i know anything about the guy not even his name. The whole trip there i couldn't get him off my mind. It took 26 hours by coach, our school is stupid and couldn't be arsed to take 60 students by plane to go to Italy. The whole time he was just on my mind.

When we got there it was about mid morning. All the boys were on one floor and the girls on the other floor of where we were staying. His room was right by mine. When we had finished settling in and having our tour we were put in our sports groups that we had picked before the trip. I picked Basketball because i love it.. He picked it too.. Our teacher that was taking us for Basketball told us the basketball courts were taken up by another school that were staying in our complex, so he told us to get our stuff to go to the pool!

When we got upstairs my friend i was staying with was taking ages!! We were last downstairs and the basketballers and my teacher were already on the way to the pool. When i got to the pool there was one sun lounger next, right next to his, his stuff was all over it and i asked him if it was free and he said 'yeah yeah, sorry' and took his stuff off. We were just chilling out and not talking and nobody would go in the pool because the water was ice cold.. A girl basketballer, who is now an amazing friend of mine, :rolleyes:, i will come to that later, stuck her head into the ice cold water and everyone laughed at her! It was just too funny. Then we all started doing it (sticking our heads into the freezing pool) and it was just a great laugh!

We then had lunch and just became really amazing friends over the holiday, we were there for 8 days. One time at dinner we were both the last 2 eating because we made a bet on who could eat the most ice cream. It was an all you can eat buffet. We had breakfast, lunch and dinner every day with each other everyday and it was just one of the best weeks of my life. We spent almost every second with each other.. I loved it well apart from the time my best friend Kate told me he had a girlfriend.. However i didn't like him that much at that point.

When we got back to London we stayed great friends, we went cinema together like every week, constant text convos and just talked all the time. Slowly we drifted apart however we remained good friends. I then realized i love him.. alot.. That summer was great, we did alot together as friends.

I began to tell my friends all about it soon after we got back to London. I told way to many people i thought i trusted, this included the basketball girl . Mine and his relationship got to the point where i talk to him just not as much as i did in Italy.

The beginning of 2010 was great, i was at a house party and he was there. He was drinking, we all were. But me and him has the least to drink so we just sat down and chatted. Then when the countdown to new year happened it was me and him together.. We had a hug and he looked at me and said 'I hope you get everything you want this year' We were by the door and looked at the fireworks people were letting off outside.. It began to snow.. and it was almost perfect..

In September of last year he went up to the girl basketballer, the girl in the first half of the story and told her he knew all about me liking him.. This crack ***** decided to tell me just last month that he knew!! She wasn't the one who told him but she waited for months before letting me know that he knew, so for about 5 months i have been acting like a fool, throwing hints and stuff.

But wait.. what about what he said at new years?! About everything i wanted.. If new years was December and he knew i really liked him in sept, did he mean it?! Does he like me?!

He hasn't said anything to me, since he found out i knew that he knew. When i found out i was crying my eyes out and he saw.. That day i was like to him on Facebook chat, 'right you know.. fine.. just can we talk about it..?!' He 'didn't know what i was talking about.' However i know he knows because he often mentions it to the basketball crack ***** bitch all the time..

He is not homophobic because he has 3 gay uncles and his brother is bisexual. He couldn't have told our mutual friends because they would have acted different towards me?!

I have tried getting over him, it just hasn't worked. I have tried EVERYTHING!!

Since that convo on Facebook i haven't said a word to him!

So what do i do!? Do i talk to him face to face?! Do i just leave it?! REALLY CONFUSED!

Sorry, this story was meant to be short but i just couldn't stopped writing! :(

Thanks for reading.. if you did..

I read it :D

You should just talk to him face to face to get it over and done with

I would personally talk to him.
From experience sometimes it exposes feelings they have for you and other times it doesn't, which believe it or not does seem to help people get over what they feel.
I hope it works out for you ):

lol

Talk to him, you have nothing to lose, he already knows you like him. So you will get to know his feelings. He sounds like a good guy.

tbh he is obviously not interested and obviously he is not gay, so respect him and leave him alone unless you can deal with it just being a friendship

But what about the whole thing that happened at new years.. you think that means anything..?

You see im not too sure.. You think it will change our friendship if we discuss it.. i would hate to loose our friendship

hell yeah, id be creeped out if one of my friends said they liked me
although i could probably still be friends with them, i doubt it would ever be to the same level

Maybe he is unsure, he might not be as confident about his sexuality. It is hard to say. However when reading I hoped that you ended up kissing him on new years :hugesmile:

Would you like to stay friends with him even if he doesn't want to be with you?

fuck yeah! I mean i cherish our friendship to pieces! I wouldn't give it up for the world.. thats why im scared to talk to him.. :(

Tricky situation with no real fulfilling answer really. I wouldn't risk what you already have with him. Sometimes you have to look at what you two already have together and be able to appreciate it. It's hard, but getting your hopes up is the worst thing you can do to yourself and possibly him.

That sounds really harsh but I wish you the best with the whole situation.

Thanks for the honesty..

I need harsh answers.. my friends are too scared to upset me so it's fine mate, i appreciate it :)

hes obviously not gay
so talking to him about it may be extremely akward for both of ye
just forget it

Easier said then done tho Karl. I do agree with you, It's going to be akward as ***** if i talk to him.. but i feel like i NEED to? :S

Then wait, you might lose his friendship if you force a chat he isn't ready for.

Arghhhh it's just so *****ing confusing. Fu'k being a teen! :(

This is pretty bad :(

Anyway, I'd suggest confessing your feelings for him to be honest. Yeah, you may bawl your eyes out, you may make a massive fool of yourself, but at least you're being honest with yourself and with him. Yes, it may creep him out. But it may not, and if he's not a total cxnt, he may appreciate the deep affection you appear to have for him, and understand that falling out as friends would be awful for you. I'm not saying it won't be awkward, because it will be. Very awkward. But I'd imagine that once it's over with, and hopefully if there's a resolution, you'll be releaved and over the moon. A strong friendship in which there is love [albeit of different kinds] and a sense of protection for one another has got to be better than nothing, surely? Yes, you'll dwell on what could have been, and what if, etc, but at the end of the day, you'd still have him. A relationship with him. Just in a different form. Now if that didn't work out, and he was a cxnt, then it wouldn't turn out quite so nicely...but that's the risk you have to take, I guess. I can't see another way out of it other than to end contact with him completely. Shut him out of your life. But that doesn't sound like the sort of thing you'd want.

Hope I helped, and I hope things work out for you, after what it seems like you've been through, you deserve it.

Oh, and the basketball girl sounds like a bitch :)

May aswell tell him, if you think.. from what i read it seems like you dont actually talk much anymore, compared to what you used to.

So if its a kinda friendship where you dont speak as much as you used to you may aswell as he knows anyway.

It will be rather awkward tho however it goes.

Good luck.

Thanks guys, i think im going to talk to him however after my exams.. i am putting them first and then talk to him!

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