Why do women get offended when I call them dear?
 

Why?

Sounds patronising? But I don't mind being called "dear" if it is in a nice way with good intentions...

I dont I just think you sound like a prat :)

Lol. I never use dear in a convo. Sometimes darling though.

i say Dear a fair bit, but no one gets offended. Maybe its because I am a woman though. And it could be the way you say it. :D

Like with anything, depends how it's put across

Shush dear :)

Would you say it to a bloke?

Why do you call them dear? Its a bit too familiar. IMO

Where's WOMBAI when you need her...

edit: oh wait she already posted, I thought she didn't because I didn't recognize her avatar...

LET THE SHOWDOWN BEGIN !

No because you're meant to say it to women!

Like many other things - it is the context in which it is said! Men and women call each other dear all the time as a term of endearment! But when a man says it to a woman he hardly knows - it is often meant in a patronising way - hence why most women don't like it! Men who use it that way though - aren't worth listening to!

Here we gooo...

Aye its all about context...but who says dear these days? sounds like Alf Garnett...my dear

They also don't like when you call them "birds" or "walking shag" or "dick eater"

Michael Ball - the best avatar in town! :hugesmile:

i don't mind being called dear rofl.

I use it in a chamring way ;)

Its patronising and it sounds like an animal.

Hinny is worse than dear though :D

Calm down dear, it's just a commercial


Christ, pissed myself off now....

the best is "love" by a long way



"You alrite luv?"

They love it!

Maybe the people Inone is offending are Post-Feminist Feminists?

Because they are 'cheap'.:joker:

Dear oh dear

Trust me call them "love" they will prefer it :)