Ladies, would you date someone considerably older than you?
 

There's this gorgeous man (i think anyway) who looks to be in his 50's, i'm in my 20's. He's got tinges of grey hair and gorgeous green eyes. He's a bit short though but that doesn't matter. He's been asking me out since last week. I'm reluctant because although I do find older men attractive I've never experienced dating one.

Has anyone hear ever dated anyone old enough to be their father? what were your experiences? Not just within the relationship but with the way people viewed your relationship?

People say I have an old soul anyway so it could work. :laugh:

well, my father left my mother for a girl who was the same age as my younger brother so I probably have a slightly biassed view on it but I just think about the future problems more than anything else if it were to become serious. Like if you want kids, he'll be really old and possibly not live through your childrens growing up. Also, do you want to be minding an old man when you're still in your prime?

:(

I thought about that unfortunately. I'm not sure whether to go into this as just an experience and a bit fun or whether I should go into it and see what happens. Oh dear. I don't know what to do. If he was rich maybe I could do an Anna Nicole Smith. Jokes.

well, if he's unattached and it's just a bit of a fling then I don't see the problem but how can you tell if it will be just that or if it will get serious?

Not too much older. It all depends really.

That's just it, you can't know can you?

I'll to think about it a bit more. The thing is atm i'm not sure whether he himself is just looking for something fun or something serious, but that's not something you ask before a first date even is it?

lmao no definitely not!! and tbh I think people will always want something serious if it's the right person, that whole I wasn't looking for anything serious line is just an excuse people use when they don't want something serious with that particular person imo!!

You know, I think I might just give it a go. :conf2: After all this worry maybe we'll end up hating each other by the end of the date anyway :laugh:

well best of luck with it anyway. You'll have to let me know how it goes!!:hugesmile:

Half his age and add 7. if you're the same age or older than this new number then you're fine e.g. if he's 52, half it to get 26. Add 7 and you get 33. You need to be 33+ to date him without it being weird

Otherwise follow your gut instinct. What do you have to lose?

I would give it a go and if it's meant to be it will be. When I was 15 I went out with a man of 33 - it didn't last but we had one hell of a time!!!

lmao, where did you get those calculations from?

:shocked:

If I was your mother I would have been reporting that guy to the police!

Have you never heard of the half their age plus 7 rule? :shocked:

I think he enjoyed it more than you ... thats just consented paedophillia

exactly! My step daughter is 15 and if she was going out with a 33 (older than me) I think my husband would end up doing time for him!!

Needless to say the parents weren't overly happy with it but I was a bit of a wild child back in those days - thankfully it all worked out ok in the end :)

yeah, I mean I have no doubt it would be all very exciting for a 15 year old but you'd have to wonder about the 33 year old!!

You have to question any guy in his fifties asking out a girl in her twenties. Forget him and date someone your own age to save getting hurt later.

My dad was 30 years older than my birth mother and is 28 years older than my step mum, and was married to both for 18 years and 11 years (and counting) respectively. My dad was 52 when I was born. I actually take exception to people saying there's 'something weird' about an older man having a relationship with a much younger woman, it happens all the time and in lots of cases works out, it just depends on the two people involved. My dad is very young at heart and he and my step mum are soul mates, I've actually never seen a more suited and in love couple.

A 33 year old man going for a 15 year old girl is a totally different thing.

All I would say is go for it, see how it feels, if it doesn't work out then whatever, you're plenty young enough to get over it and put it down to experience :)

yep, if it's two consenting adults then that's their business but that is actually paedophilia

The first thing you need to seriously consider is this...

How rich is he?

I've dated men older than me, and I've dated men younger. Age is just a series of numbers after your name and it depends on the person. Some people are old at twenty.

We're all a long time dead and I'd say, if you like him, date him.

Stay away from the older guys.

I know several men 35+ that are married or have a long relationship with someone that go after younger girls on the side. Be careful.

I agree with the people who are dubious about a man in his fifties asking out a girl in her twenties. Its just icky - does any one use that word any more? I'm not saying its wrong I just have to ask why a man of that age cant find someone with the same experiences as him and has to go cradle snatching. I don't doubt that it works for some people it just leaves me cold.

But as some have said, if he's rich the get all you can from him.