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Stalker.. advice needed.

Yes

I have had the same trouble with a member on this forum, he goes by the name of " Locke " everyone knows he has a wild crush on me.. i have tried to tell him many times that i am straight but he won't have it..

Dirty bastard he is :bored:

I think you just need to tell him straight that your not interested and he needs to leave you alone :/

Report him to the police, quite simply. Better to be safe than sorry as they always say :)

Sorry to hear about this by the way. Would freak me the **** out.

Yes

I have had the same trouble with a member on this forum, he goes by the name of " Novo " everyone knows he has a wild crush on me.. i have tried to tell him many times that i am straight but he won't have it.. Apparently he has done things like this with other members and scared them away from the forum (conzors, and loukas)

Dirty bastard he is

Sounds really creepy.

I would just confront him about it, tell him how much of a freak he is, and if it continues go to the police :/

Don't you have any dodgy mates who could threaten him?

Be careful. He could try spike you the creep he sounds.

Tell him to get lost. If he is persistent consider avoiding him or contacting the police. :)

Bloody hell, that sounds terrible :/

I'd either talk to a friend and get them to tell him how you feel, or if you're really worried call the police. Like someone else said, better safe than sorry.

Hope you're okay :)

Next time he decides to follow you, let him follow you straight to the Police station. If I were you I would report it the police and see what advice they can give you about it, I was watching a programme on TV recently actually about stalking laws, I think it was an American show so the same laws probably don't apply in Britain but you should find out from the police what the laws are

The trouble with stalkers is that they are delusional and will believe what they want to believe. Stalking has now been recognised as a criminal offence, so I would tell him that you will report him to the police if he contacts you or follows you one more time and if he does, follow through. What can start off as innocent infatuation can quickly become something far more sinister once the stalker is rejected.

-gives Daren some constructive advice in MSN on how to f.uck people up-

LoL

Report him to the police. That type of behaviour is not normal. He could possibly be a murderer, you never know. Report him.

Just tell him to **** off. You're too soft just saying to leave you alone.

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Originally Posted by SoBig (Post 3906667)

Report him to the police. That type of behaviour is not normal. He could possibly be a murderer, you never know. Report him.

What a reassuring post. O_o

Get a restraining order.

Thanks for all the support guys, your opinions have defo helped.
My friend's sister is an office in the same place I work, so he asked me for details and she's registered it on the system. She said that an officer usually lingers around the area anyway and will pop in now and again at closing time to check I'm okay which is reassuring. We serve them a lot so I know them fairly well as it is. so if he turns up then I've got them, which is reassuring.

Hopefully this'll put an end to it :/
Thanks again guys <3
Love the idea of walking straight into the police station haha! <3

i wish i had a stalker

is he hot? il take him off your hands

He's not, no
& trust me, you don't want this.

I'd have joked the same thing had it happened to someone else, but it is quite scary..

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Originally Posted by Darenn (Post 3906596)

Hey guys..
I know I don't post much anymore because I'm just way too busy offline to spend enough time on here but I'm really in need of some advice and I don't really know where else to turn.

Basically, me and a friend go out clubbing a couple of times a week to the same place, and always get chatting to people, have a drink & dance and whatnot. A couple of weeks ago, we met one guy who seemed the same as all the others, but clearly, I was wrong.
We added him on facebook and everything was fine until I went out again a couple of nights later. Me & a different friend went and he was there, and he was really clingy and just wouldn't leave me alone. I deleted him off facebook though he clearly had my number 'cos he kept texting me regarding my birthday which had just passed. He knows I'm not interested and that I've got a boyfriend.
We then went back two nights later, he was there again (always on his own) and the same happened. He tried to turn my friend against me, then when we left the club to get the bus home, he was admant he was coming home with one of us. He got on our first bus, so we got off where I had to change and jump a different bus and he came off with us. We tried to lose him for over an hour, and in the end, I tricked him into getting on the bus by letting buy his ticket first then hopping off, and jumping another bus.
Freaky enough?

The next day, I turn up to work (Starbucks) at the time I was meant to start and he was there. I was extremely creeped out, went started to do my job, trying to avoid him. I've never told him where I work, but he did claim to see my staff card in my wallet & overhear me and my friend discussing the place. He came up to me as he was leaving and handed me a bag and left. I opened it, and inside was a £30 gift with a love poem. I left it in our office and forgot about it. He came back WHEN I WAS DUE TO FINISH and waited for me outside. By then I'd informed my co-workers on shift the situation and they told me to go make any calls I felt necessary. I called my best friend for advice, and then told him straight there to leave me alone & give me some space, as I was freaked out and uncomfortable. He left, and I finished work, having my workmate walk me to the tube station.

I heard nothing else until Tuesday (this week) where my supervisor texted me to tell me that he'd been in again, and that my boss was on shift so he'd seen him too. I've just received a text from another supervisor telling me he was in the store again today. I was working earlies today, so I missed him. He never says anything, just comes in alone towards closing time and buys a drink, sits there and leaves. He lives about an hour/hour and a half away from my work, so he's definitely not there for the coffee.

I'm seriously freaked out right now and I don't know what to do. I'm at uni four days a week, and work at the weekend and the other day in the week. He's never turned up to my uni but I'm closing all weekend and I'm paranoid he'll turn up. He's apparently 18 so he could just have a major crush but imo, he looks older.. and the behaviour is too weird.

I'm thinking of just ignoring him unless he specifically approaches me to talk, in which case I'll just tell him straight again to leave me alone, and it's been suggested I threaten him with police/legal action. I'm just worried he'll follow me on the tube :|

So yeah... any advice would be appreciated.
Thanks <3

kick the freaks head in

Obviously do the logical things, always stay in public and have your wits about you. You've got the police on side in a way and you and people around you know what he looks like so you should be ok.
Hope he has kept out the way since you last posted :)

Tell the lad you are not interested in him now nor because of his behaviour will you ever be interested.

Whilst local police are aware and will help by turning up at your work etc. You should get a notebook and log down as accurately as possible when he has turned up near you etc. Heres the important bit while you log this detail down also note how you are feeling about the situation, so if he turns up at your uni and that scares or worries you log that fact down.

Also if his stalking gets so bad that you ever decide to stay in when you would normally have gone out etc, if you change travel plans, routes etc because of his behaviour.

I'd try telling him again that you aren't interested again, if he still keeps hanging around go to the police and get a restraining order. Be careful though he does sound a bit off. Maybe in the mean time you can tell a tutor at Uni so they can put an alert out or something, I'm not sure how it works at University but if you tell them I'm sure they'll tell the security guards to keep an eye out and such.

I'd probably try and keep your friends close when you're out and about and make your facebook private and such. It's probably overkill but it's better to be safe then sorry. I hope things get better, he sounds creepy as hell.