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fruit_cake 11-10-2011 11:16 AM

Emotional connections to housemates
 
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Originally Posted by Niamh.
I decided to move the posts from the Alex thread to here, in order to carry on the discussion as I think it's quite interesting.

What are your thoughts on this? What does it mean and do you have them?



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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 4641640)
I would if I saw any HMs as role models but I don't :idc:

so how do you see your housemates then? It's normal for people to have some emotional connection to them otherwise there wouldn't be much point in my view

Niamh. 11-10-2011 11:22 AM

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Originally Posted by fruit_cake (Post 4641696)
so how do you see your housemates then? It's normal for people to have some emotional connection to them otherwise there wouldn't be much point in my view

There's a difference between having some kind of emotional connection though and seeing them as role models.

Suze 11-10-2011 11:23 AM

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Originally Posted by fruit_cake (Post 4641696)
so how do you see your housemates then? It's normal for people to have some emotional connection to them otherwise there wouldn't be much point in my view

I don't agree, it's just a game show, and although feeling sorry for some of them and hoping they can go far in the game might be normal, getting far too attached to housemates who once out that house will probably in all honesty apart from a few, not give their fans a second thought unless it is of some benefit to their ego's is not worth it. If we can step back and just view it as a game and accept for the most part, who wins and who gets evicted, it is is better for us probably. BB is mostly in control now, not us, as some of us have already debated in posts.

Pyramid* 11-10-2011 11:25 AM

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Originally Posted by fruit_cake (Post 4641696)
so how do you see your housemates then? It's normal for people to have some emotional connection to them otherwise there wouldn't be much point in my view

I disagree that it's normal to have an emotional connection to the housemates.

Why on earth would anyone have an emotional connection to someone they only see through a tv screen, in highlighly manipulated edits? :conf:

Chuck 11-10-2011 11:29 AM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 4641720)
I disagree that it's normal to have an emotional connection to the housemates.

I agree with you, it might be common for many people but I don't see the point in it at all.

Niamh. 11-10-2011 11:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 4641720)
I disagree that it's normal to have an emotional connection to the housemates.

Why on earth would anyone have an emotional connection to someone they only see through a tv screen, in highlighly manipulated edits? :conf:

I see what she's saying, the HMs do spark emotions in us, look how we defend or ridicule our Favourites/least favourites on here. I don't think it's a deep emotional attachment to them personally but emotions are certainly involved

Pyramid* 11-10-2011 11:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 4641734)
I see what she's saying, the HMs do spark emotions in us, look how we defend or ridicule our Favourites/least favourites on here. I don't think it's a deep emotional attachment to them personally but emotions are certainly involved


I don't have any emotional connection, honestly. I may like or dislike their behaviour - but there is no emotional connection for the housemate as a person. That's the angle I'm coming from.


Clearly they illicit a reaction from me based on their behaviour - but to me, I could never regard that as me having an emotional connection to the housemate/s.

Niamh. 11-10-2011 11:47 AM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 4641760)
I don't have any emotional connection, honestly. I may like or dislike their behaviour - but there is no emotional connection for the housemate as a person. That's the angle I'm coming from.


Clearly they illicit a reaction from me based on their behaviour - but to me, I could never regard that as me having an emotional connection to the housemate/s.

I do, like I said It's not a strong connection and it's one that disappears as soon as BB ends but I'll hold my hands up and say that occasionally ( :laugh: ) I may let bad behaviour of my favourite HM slide, when I'd be all over it if it were a HM I didn't like. If there wasn't some sort of emotional connection towards your favourite HM then your favourite HM would be constantly changing..........in my opinion of course .

Pyramid* 11-10-2011 11:53 AM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 4641776)
I do, like I said It's not a strong connection and it's one that disappears as soon as BB ends but I'll hold my hands up and say that occasionally ( :laugh: ) I may let bad behaviour of my favourite HM slide, when I'd be all over it if it were a HM I didn't like. If there wasn't some sort of emotional connection towards your favourite HM then your favourite HM would be constantly changing..........in my opinion of course .

Oh I completely understand where you are coming from. Just for me personally, there is a difference between emotional reaction based on someone's behaviour and emotional connection to a housemate.

I personally think they are two very different things.

vesavius 11-10-2011 11:57 AM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 4641776)
I do, like I said It's not a strong connection and it's one that disappears as soon as BB ends but I'll hold my hands up and say that occasionally ( :laugh: ) I may let bad behaviour of my favourite HM slide, when I'd be all over it if it were a HM I didn't like. If there wasn't some sort of emotional connection towards your favourite HM then your favourite HM would be constantly changing..........in my opinion of course .

lol I'm exactly the same Niamh, I relate 100%

If I didn't care a little bit about my fave I wouldnt have any kind of investment in the show and it would be interesting at all to me.. It's not like BB is an intellectual excercise eh? :joker:

But when the series is done, or they leave that house for any reason, I am done with them and have no further interest in their further lives or careers.

Gillian-73 11-10-2011 11:59 AM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 4641720)
I disagree that it's normal to have an emotional connection to the housemates.

Why on earth would anyone have an emotional connection to someone they only see through a tv screen, in highlighly manipulated edits? :conf:

i absolutely agree with this!

Niamh. 11-10-2011 12:00 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 4641794)
Oh I completely understand where you are coming from. Just for me personally, there is a difference between emotional reaction based on someone's behaviour and emotional connection to a housemate.

I personally think they are two very different things.

Yeah, but are you really telling me that you've never made excuses for a favourite HM when if your least favourite did the same you'd be all over it? That's not based on behaviour but on how much you like the particular HM. Granted you probably started liking the HM in the first place because of how they behaved but I think once you like them, then unless they do something completely horrendous you'll stick by them and make excuses for them.

*and by "you" I mean a general you not you personally!!

Niamh. 11-10-2011 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by vesavius (Post 4641801)
lol I'm exactly the same Niamh, I relate 100%

If I didn't care a little bit about my fave I wouldnt have any kind of investment in the show and it would be interesting at all to me.. It's not like BB is an intellectual excercise eh? :joker:

But when the series is done, or they leave that house for any reason, I am done with them and have no further interest in their further lives or careers.

lol, yeah, except for Brian Dowling, I really wanted to see him back on my TV after BB2 and again UBB. Just because he really made me laugh :love:

Gillian-73 11-10-2011 12:02 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 4641794)
Oh I completely understand where you are coming from. Just for me personally, there is a difference between emotional reaction based on someone's behaviour and emotional connection to a housemate.

I personally think they are two very different things.

Any chance you can say something i don't agree with from time to time :laugh3:

Pyramid* 11-10-2011 12:05 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 4641815)
Yeah, but are you really telling me that you've never made excuses for a favourite HM when if your least favourite did the same you'd be all over it? That's not based on behaviour but on how much you like the particular HM. Granted you probably started liking the HM in the first place because of how they behaved but I think once you like them, then unless they do something completely horrendous you'll stick by them and make excuses for them.

*and by "you" I mean a general you not you personally!!

Of course I have, but that doesn't mean I have an emotional connection with that particular housemate.

For example: I cannot stand Katie Price due to her behaviour, though I admire her guts - but I have no emotional connection with her.

I simply see emotional connection to a person that I have never met, see only through a tv screen - impossible - particularly when we know it's highly manipulated. Same as hating someone via a tv screen - how can you hate a person you've never met.

Niamh. 11-10-2011 12:33 PM

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Originally Posted by Pyramid* (Post 4641821)
Of course I have, but that doesn't mean I have an emotional connection with that particular housemate.

For example: I cannot stand Katie Price due to her behaviour, though I admire her guts - but I have no emotional connection with her.

I simply see emotional connection to a person that I have never met, see only through a tv screen - impossible - particularly when we know it's highly manipulated. Same as hating someone via a tv screen - how can you hate a person you've never met.

Well, I suppose we just have different interpretations of what is meant by "emotional connections" then cos it seems we agree with each others points :joker:

Pyramid* 11-10-2011 12:34 PM

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 4641871)
Well, I suppose we just have different interpretations of what is meant by "emotional connections" then cos it seems we agree with each others points :joker:

we may agree in some degree, but for very different reasons. :)

fruit_cake 11-10-2011 12:55 PM

when I said emotional connection, I purposely said it was normal to have SOME emotional connection I wish people would read what I wrote before telling me how wrong I am for something I never said in the first place.

"Some emotional connection" doesn't mean you are falling over yourself because of some weird stalker like connection as I believe some have interpreted what I said. I meant it to mean more like the posters Vesuvius and Niamh have outlined below,

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If I didn't care a little bit about my fave I wouldnt have any kind of investment in the show and it would be interesting at all to me.. It's not like BB is an intellectual excercise eh?

But when the series is done, or they leave that house for any reason, I am done with them and have no further interest in their further lives or careers.

fruit_cake 11-10-2011 12:58 PM

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Originally Posted by pyramid
I cannot stand Katie Price due to her behaviour, though I admire her guts - but I have no emotional connection with her.

this is a contradiction in terms from my perspective. If you cannot stand someone, or you admire them, you have an emotional connection. I don't think that's a unreasonable thing to say.

Pyramid* 11-10-2011 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by fruit_cake (Post 4641923)
when I said emotional connection, I purposely said it was normal to have SOME emotional connection I wish people would read what I wrote before telling me how wrong I am for something I never said in the first place.

"Some emotional connection" doesn't mean you are falling over yourself because of some weird stalker like connection as I believe some have interpreted what I said. I meant it to mean more like the posters Vesuvius and Niamh have outlined below,

No one said you were wrong. People disagreed with you fruit_cake, that's all.

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Originally Posted by Niamh. (Post 4641926)
That's not very nice nice James, Lee is a very nice person :nono:

Ahhhh..... on the ball !!

:D

Pyramid* 11-10-2011 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by fruit_cake (Post 4641934)
this is a contradiction in terms from my perspective. If you cannot stand someone, or you admire them, you have an emotional connection. I don't think that's a unreasonable thing to say.

I don't agree however for all the reasons I've previously mentioned.

Niamh. 11-10-2011 12:59 PM

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Originally Posted by fruit_cake (Post 4641934)
this is a contradiction in terms from my perspective. If you cannot stand someone, or you admire them, you have an emotional connection. I don't think that's a unreasonable thing to say.

Yeah, this is the way I'd see it as well, not a very deep one you might have to people you actually know personally but still some sort of emotional connection

fruit_cake 11-10-2011 01:04 PM

I like the idea of having some emotional connection to my favourites, it nice to partly 'live' the experience a bit more and as it's all a bit of fun I don't see any harm in it really:lovedup:

fruit_cake 11-10-2011 01:13 PM

housemates that stir up feelings inside you.. be them good or bad, might be a way of describing it.

Jordan. 11-10-2011 01:17 PM

-looks at Thomas-


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