Monday dilemma/a double...
 

..you find out that your 1yr old child is not biologically yours because of a mix-up at the hospital and another mother has your child... what would you do, would you want to exchange 'your child' to try to correct the mistake..?...





...you have the chance to meet someone with whom you can have the most satisfying love imaginable, the stuff of dreams... however, you know that in six months that person will have sex with someone else, and leave you for the other person.. knowing how heartbroken you will be, would you still want to meet the person and fall in love and experience the six months of bliss..?...

Yes to the first and No to the second.

No to both.

Dilemma 1 - I'd want to meet the child, and I'd feel a bit threatened about the child I brought up but I'd still honour their right to meet their biological parent. But swapping them, no way no how. I'd obviously love the child I'd brought up as mine and couldn't bear to let them go.

Dilemma 2 - I'd give it a miss. Why deliberately store up heartache for myself.

The first, God I don't know, I don't think I'd know what I'd feel like doing unless I was in the situation.

The second a definite no, if he cheats after just 6 months whatever "magical love" I thought was happening would have been a lie anyway

1. Yes I would want my child back but I then I'm not a Mom so I'm not sure how I would feel.
2. No, I would not put myself through that and if he cheated on me after six months then wasn't that great a love

Oh Ammi...you do like to get us thinking on a Monday morning...

1 - I'm really not sure. After 12 months the bond between you and the baby would be very strong. I think it would depend if I could have an active role in the biological child's life. I would worry that if I cut all ties then if that child became I'll and needed say bone marrow, I would be at fault but that child would also have bonds with the person who was raising it so I just do not know if I could unsettle 2 children.

2 - no way...if the love was that strong the hurt would be too much for just 6 months

I think the first one would be taken out of my hands.
Something the hospital, social workers, authorities would get involved in.
I would have to do the swap, no way could I not bring my own child up.
No doubt we would need counselling. Hopefully both couples would keep in touch and we could still see our little changeling.

Second one is easy.
If it was 6 months great lust, no strings attached then why not.
If it was true love then no chance.
Mind you, they do say better to have loved and lost than never to ave loved at all.

I'd want to swap but I'd want to keep in contact with the other family and we could help each other through the inevitable upset and difficulties in adapting to the change... I'd make sure my child referred to them as auntie/uncle when they were old enough to walk and talk and explain the situation to them when they're older.

I absolutely wouldn't go for it. I would never want to set myself up for a fall like that, it hurts a lot to be cheated on and I think if you really loved that person it would hurt even more and would be very difficult to get over.