Am I being a bitch?
 

So my boyfriend is 3 years older than me and he has a full time job wheras I still go to college, today was my last day for summer and we had talked about going to blackpool for the weekend with a few others just to get away.

So i got a text off my friend earlier that we arent going now because the guys are going to Newcastle for a 'lads' weekend and she is angry because she booked time off work for blackpool and I'm really pissed off too, I have my bags packed for tomorrow and Brad (my boyfriend) didn't even tell me, I'd have got up at 6 to get ready and the worst part is I text him asking him whats going on and he's making out I am being a bitch and dramatic for being pissed off

Urhghgdthss am I in the wrong here?

Yes.


But seriously no, late cancellations really piss me off. Plus the fact he knew it was off. I'd say stand your ground and fight your corner.

No. You have every right to be pissed off.

I hate it when people make late cancellations. The same thing happened to me back in the New Year, and it gets on my wick.

If he knew it was off, and didn't even tell you, so you would've wasted your time tomorrow getting ready unbeknownst to the fact it wasn't happening. Then I think he's in the wrong.

Also, someone making other plans when they've already made plans with someone else beforehand is just rude and inconsiderate. If my girlfriend did that, I'd be livid. Especially because he didn't even tell you that it was off and went behind your back. Sounds like he'd rather hang out with his lad friends, than be with his GF.

Nope it's actually a sign of respect to let someone know "look baby I am really sorry to do this to you, especially since you were already getting ready but do you mind if the lads and I take our holiday first and then we'll do blackpool?"

And to call you a bitch for being angry at this is disrespectful!!!

Ditch him if he doesn't value your emotions. <-----Ok this last bit is a bit drastic :D

Omg I'd be fuming

No way! that's not even close to being a bitch, when plans get cancelled people are bound to get really annoyed.

He said it's no big deal because I paid nothing towards the trip so I have no right to be pissed off because he's the one loosing money but that's not the point, they booked a hotel at about 5 today according to my friend and we have text all night, why not mention it?

No you are not a bitch.
Now then, you and your mate get yourselves to Blackpool, enjoy yourself and make sure you send plenty of happy smiley selfies to the inconsiderate boyfriends that think they can chop and change the arrangements at he drop of a hat with no consideration for others.

You were still looking forward to it though, and he's just changed plans last minute. Not fair really.

That's not the point. If you were looking forwards to it, and had spent your time getting ready for it. Then why shouldn't you be annoyed. Not to mention, the fact he went and made other plans when he had already made plans with you to go to Blackpool before.

We were talking about just going for the day on the train, just the girls.

I just feel dead let down, especially as I wouldn't even know unless the other girls told me

I think if you were looking forwards to it. Just go with the girls and enjoy yourselves and have fun weekend without your BF. He obviously didn't want to go, otherwise he wouldn't have made other plans when he already had plans beforehand. If you don't go, it'll probably upset you more. Plus, you'll have much more fun with your friends. Better than being alone during the weekend, whilst your BF is out. Might as well enjoy yourself too.

Thank you, idk whats going on anymore

Last minute change of plans is one thing but to not even tell you?

BASTARD.

Please dump him Amy, Pisses me off just being reminded how annoying 'Friends' are! Constantly waiting for them to ****ing text you back aswell ughhh!!!

[QUOTE=Amy Jade;7987510]He said it's no big deal because I paid nothing towards the trip so I have no right to be pissed off because he's the one loosing money but that's not the point, they booked a hotel at about 5 today according to my friend and we have text all night, why not mention it?[/QUOTE]

..because he knows that he has been unfair/did wrong/feels guilt and is trying to deflect that onto you, Amy...

..I'm not going to say ..dump him etc etc because this one thing is not your whole relationship with him and it would be unfair to judge him on this one thing... only you really know him, know whether he's someone you want to be with/'flaws and all' etc....there are obviously good things that you see in him as well....and I'm not going to say, have a great weekend with your friend in Blackpool instead and forget about him in Newcastle and what's happened because you won't help but think about stuff and him...but just try to take what you can from it all and do whatever you want to do this weekend, either spending time with friends or just time on your own or whatever because letting it all occupy your mind and thoughts won't change anything except leave you with a fairly rubbish weekend...


..I also know that if there are any decisions to be made Amy, you'll make the right ones for you...:hug:....

I don't understand why you can't go to Blackpool if they go to Newcastle? Why not both?

Nah you're not, I'd be mad too.
I would go away with my friends and forget about the men

No.

You and your friends get yourself away for a few days even if it isn't to Blackpool

Nope...that's pretty rough to be honest and you're well within you're rights to be pissed off.

Get yourself away with the girls and forget about those rotten boys for the weekend. :love:

I hope you do still go for the day, if so, try and put if out of your mind that you feel let down until you get back.
Time for a talk with your boyfriend, you need to tell him how you feel and that he has let you down otherwise he will thnk he can do it again.
Good luck with it.

..I'm sorry that that's your experience with some of your friendships, Glenn Bill..(I hope that you have great ones as well..)...as harsh as it sounds though and I truly don't mean it to sound dismissive or anything...some people will only do what we allow them to, just because they can, you know...so I think it's always for us to know our own boundaries with friendships and relationships and not allow someone to cross those boundaries because otherwise it's less them that we're annoyed with, but ourselves for allowing these things, if that makes sense...being annoyed with them is just how it projects because really, people will just be people and not always do stuff right and sometimes completely do it wrong etc....

...should we all go with/girls weekend in Blackpool, ladies..?..../I think so...

How did your boyfriend know what your friends were doing before you?

Sorry but your bf is an inconsiderate arsehole! It is irrelevant that you had not contributed, he knows the score as to your financial state and he made arrangements with you and friends to go away for the weekend.
He makes other arrangements at the last minute, doesnt tell you and somehow thinks it doesnt matter and your in the wrong for getting upset?! He is a t wat and a crap bf imo.
You are not a bitch at all, in fact i think he is very lucky he still has a gf at all if thats his attitude!