| Jamie89 |
30-08-2015 08:23 AM |
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Originally Posted by ConnieLingus
(Post 8100896)
No. Michelle's biggest failure was that she didn't realise that her "cause" was something that no one cares about.
Most people just want to get on with their lives, and let other people who have sexual problems get on with theirs...no matter whether that is someone coming out of the closet, getting acceptance for the way they dress, or trying to get an operation to be who they really are.
We all empathise, but ultimately, it's nothing to do with my life or the life of anyone I know.
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I agree. As much as Michelle deserves respect for the work she's done for gay rights over the years, I don't think the way she speaks about 'the community' has any real relevance in modern society. We've moved on (and actually it's people like Michelle who are to thank for this progression) but because of this, it just comes across as outdated and patronising when she speaks the way she does about her 'cause'. As a gay man I felt sometimes that she was lumping all gay people in the same bracket as to how they should behave, for example when she complained about Perez bringing shame on gay people because of how he was acting. She had good intentions but I think she was demonstrating that she positively discriminates towards gay people who fit in with her expectations of what a gay person should be, and positive discrimination is still discrimination. It's like when straight people (mostly women sorry) say things like "I just love gay people, they're so funny". It's technically a nice thing to say, but it still assumes that someone is defined by their sexuality which we should have moved on from by now. And as for "the community"; although there is still some discrimination, I think the biggest problem isn't gay people vs homophobes, it's gay people vs gay people. There's more discrimination, in-fighting and judgement within the community than there is coming from outside it, but someone like Michelle would be too afraid to address this real issue incase she is seen as being critical of gay people. It's only when someone with a public profile like Michelle has the guts to break apart the community and address the issues within (and risk facing a lot of criticism along the way), instead of blanketly protecting it as a singular thing, that this will start to change. Until then, gay people have no reason to look at how they're treating each other and the issues will only be exacerbated.
I really wanted to say all this during her time on BB because I had a lot of issues with her but I wasn't on the forum then haha! |
