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Kizzy 30-09-2016 10:38 PM

Hello luv.. Are you offended?
 
Is it difficult to understand why woman in the workplace don't appreciate being called love, babe or honey..... there's a radio interview it's long but worth a listen, the male presenters can't seem to grasp the reasonings behind the research, it's quite amusing.

http://talkradio.co.uk/news/bird-dol...ace-1609304812

Marsh. 30-09-2016 10:44 PM

I can understand not liking "bird" and "honey" which can be sexist and patronising.

But "love", I get that quite a lot from older people. :laugh: So in that respect it's kinda ageist. :nono:

Rob! 30-09-2016 10:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Marsh. (Post 8996373)
I can understand not liking "bird" and "honey" which can be sexist and patronising.

But "love", I get that quite a lot from older people. :laugh: So in that respect it's kinda ageist. :nono:

You moaned about being called love on DS :nono:

Rob! 30-09-2016 10:48 PM

For what it's worth I call people darling, love, sweetie, babe and everything at work

MB. 30-09-2016 10:59 PM

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Originally Posted by Rob! (Post 8996382)
For what it's worth I call people darling, sweetie and everything at work

Calm down Patsy Stone

caprimint 30-09-2016 11:00 PM

I find any of those words to be really patronizing and awful, I don't like it from anyone though if it's friends/family/randomers/customers/etc.

Amy Jade 30-09-2016 11:06 PM

I dont mind being called any of them

Firewire 30-09-2016 11:13 PM

hen is the best

Northern Monkey 30-09-2016 11:17 PM

Maybe it's a regional thing.In the north it's just the norm."cheers love","mind ya back love","ey up love","steady on love" etc etc

Kyle 30-09-2016 11:19 PM

I get called love all the time round here and the vast majority of it comes from women.

Never once has it kept me awake at night.

Might as well just stop talking to people full stop the way we are going.

smudgie 30-09-2016 11:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Kyle (Post 8996438)
I get called love all the time round here and the vast majority of it comes from women.

Never once has it kept me awake at night.

Might as well just stop talking to people full stop the way we are going.

Aye love, a good Northern lad.

Kyle 30-09-2016 11:29 PM

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Originally Posted by smudgie (Post 8996449)
Aye love, a good Northern lad.

Exactly. Nowt wrong with it in my opinion. As long as you don't have drool hanging from yer gob and yer hand down yer kegs while you call some lass love it's alright with me tha knows. Just being nice and friendly. :hee:

Kizzy 30-09-2016 11:36 PM

I does specify in the workplace, in general conversation I like it but at work I can see why there's a need to maintain professionalism and terms like that just don't really.

Northern Monkey 30-09-2016 11:41 PM

I think when these women get offended by day to day conversation they're just being abit hysterical tbh.I don't blame em though,It's not their fault i think it's just the hormones.

Kyle 30-09-2016 11:48 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Northern Monkey (Post 8996494)
I think when these women get offended by day to day conversation they're just being abit hysterical tbh.I don't blame em though,It's not their fault i think it's just the hormones.

Niamh or Kizzy are gunna have your balls in a vice in a minute pal for saying that.

I'd like to stick around and back you up but I'm a bit of a bootlick now so I'll stand behind Niamh and point and tut at you, you nasty man :nono:

Marsh. 01-10-2016 01:05 AM

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Originally Posted by Rob! (Post 8996380)
You moaned about being called love on DS :nono:

I was never called love on DS. :nono:

Amy Jade 01-10-2016 02:52 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kizzy (Post 8996481)
I does specify in the workplace, in general conversation I like it but at work I can see why there's a need to maintain professionalism and terms like that just don't really.

I get called love, darling, babe, hun, all kinds of things in work by colleagues and the customers and I don't find it offensive at all. It's not said in a bad natured way so I don see how it's offensive.

Ammi 01-10-2016 05:22 AM

...I don't have time to listen to the article atm../I'll put it on my playlist and try to another time...but I think generally for me and like many other things, it depends on the context whether it be in the workplace or anywhere..'love' and 'sweetheart' and such the like can be used in an intentionally patronising/condescending way and then they may cause offense because that was the intention and the vein at the time...although I still wouldn't be offended as such but more just amused I think...but they're quite often used affectionately as well as terms of endearment, I think that most of us generally know which way they're meant...

Ammi 01-10-2016 05:25 AM

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Originally Posted by Rob! (Post 8996382)
For what it's worth I call people darling, love, sweetie, babe and everything at work

..I sometimes do with the children if I can't always immediately recall their names...

Ammi 01-10-2016 05:26 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Amy Jade (Post 8996731)
I get called love, darling, babe, hun, all kinds of things in work by colleagues and the customers and I don't find it offensive at all. It's not said in a bad natured way so I don see how it's offensive.

...or what Amy said really...

Northern Monkey 01-10-2016 08:54 AM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kyle (Post 8996501)
Niamh or Kizzy are gunna have your balls in a vice in a minute pal for saying that.

I'd like to stick around and back you up but I'm a bit of a bootlick now so I'll stand behind Niamh and point and tut at you, you nasty man :nono:

:joker:

Kizzy 01-10-2016 12:34 PM

Nobody listened then? :/

kirklancaster 01-10-2016 01:43 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Kizzy (Post 8996856)
Nobody listened then? :/

Listened to what love? :laugh: Just joshing. I'm listening to it now.

user104658 01-10-2016 02:56 PM

I find all of these little names irritating. Not necessarily offensive, but needless. It is a cross gender issue though, I get "love" or "darling" plenty from women :joker:. Also from men; "Pal", "Bud", "Buddy", the occasional "Champ", "Big Man" (always from short angry little fellows), "mate"... even one who routinely calls me "Boy" like something out of Oliver Twist.

Crimson Dynamo 01-10-2016 02:59 PM

I can guarantee you that if an attractive person calls you any of them the moaners would not care

what they dont like is people they dont like calling them that


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