My son in law has had an affair
 

Hi forum, haven't been online much the past few days as the wife and I have spent a lot of time with our eldest daughter.

Our eldest daughter came knocking at the door at the end of last week in floods of tears, revealing that her other half had been cheating on her with some other female.

My poor daughter was heartbroken and no father wants to see one of his girls so upset. We're all in shock as the man in question has always been a pleasure - we welcomed him into our family with ease.

He had been sending inappropriate pictures and texts, and occasionally met up with her for sex. He apparently put a stop it but guilt got the better of him in the end and he confessed last week.

It's been a difficult weekend for everyone. My wife and I are there for her but it's difficult to know what to say to her. How to comfort a heartbroken daughter?

Hope you've all been well.
Ron.

Was he listening to Little Mix too?

What do you mean Marsh? R.

Sorry, I couldn't help myself. :hehe: It was a reference to the thread about your lesbian daughter. :fan:

Adultery is a bugbear of mine, I find it really unnecessary and it takes a certain someone to treat their loved ones so disgustingly. I hope your daughter comes through it ok.

Oh ha ha yes I remember now. That's my other daughter who likes Little Mix- she enjoyed her sleepover , no lesbian moments to my knowledge. R.

:laugh: Glad to hear it. Did they share the room in the end?

It's a horrible situation and i hope your daughter is ok and does what she thinks is best x

Being cheated on honestly destroys you for a little while :(

Yes the room is quite small (a single bed), we put up a blow up bed next to the door. I took the forum's advice and avoided any intrusive questions. If she is a lesbian she will tell me in her own time I'm sure. R.

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Maybe my eldest is better off being a lesbian if men are going to treat her like that!! R.

Have you seen him since it happened or has he made himself scarce?

Haven't seen him myself. I'd love to give him a peace of my mind! He's been texting my daughter but she's having none of it at the moment. She's distraught though. R.

Do they have children?

No children but they were talking about trying. Good job this has come out now rather than later! R.

She should leave him.. at least for a little while.

Theres a skill to working out who the good ones are, but that usually comes down to luck or experience.

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girls are no better :nono:

I say she should leave this guy. Lucky escape in my opinion. I would never dream of texting somebody else if I'm with somebody I love. If I did, I'd leave her.

She'll meet the right guy.

I know you will both be angry and your daughter heartbroken, but please just give her all your love and sympathy, but they will have to fix this matter on their own. Its' a difficult and sensitive time for all and I know you will feel like tearing him apart as I know I would, but its' up to them , what they do. You will be in my thoughts, look after both of yourselves, you need to. Some of us have been through this with our kids already and they always make their own minds up, no matter what we say :bawling:

It's all go in your house R :sad:

The fact that he confessed means its been laying heavy on his mind, so there maybe hope that they can work through this if your daughter is willing to forgive him.
The fact they don't have kids is a good thing in a bad situation because if their relationship is over their can be closure, but with kids you never really have full closure.

That's not just cheating its totally disrespect, deceipt and recklessness. The trust has been obliterated and the relationship ruined. He can never be trusted again so get rid, there are plenty good trustful men around and thankfully she found out he wasn't one before children came.

It's harsh but she needs to get rid of this pig ASAP.

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What kind and constructive , helpful words . Thank you. R.

That's having daughters for you cherie. It's a fathers job to worry. As soon my first was born I thought uh oh! When my second was born I knew was in for trouble! Love them both dearly though - good as gold! Wouldn't change them for the world . R.