Should you take your husband's surname? Nicola Mclean debates
 

She must be raking in these appearance fees at this point

I do take her side though :p

of course

otherwise chaos will ensue

you don’t have too

Everyones own decision who really cares what someones surname is , i do wonder what they are gonna do when the double barrel marries another double barrel , its all gone a bit off the wall !

I was married - not for long ! but i took his name because it was Robinson and i quite liked announcing i'm Mrs Robinson seducer of young men !

The name was short lived like the marriage.

this :hugesmile:

As with most things, the answer is "you should if you want to." Though I'm a bit of a traditionalist, so I'd lean toward defaulting as yes, with "you shouldn't if you don't want to."

You shouldn’t feel obliged to do it imo. My mum took my dad’s surname.

Although if I was getting married to someone who had the surname Matthews, I wouldn’t take that person’s surname, for obvious reasons

I absolutely agree with Nicola :clap2:
Everyone should do as they wish and I appreciate people who chose to keep their surname even if it doesn't sit will with others...

Totally down to choice.
Wonder if it’s too late to double barrel mine.:joker:

Should be the womans choice tbh. I took my husbands name as one, everyone expects it two, the kids had his name (something else thats all about 'tradition really though) and three..I hated mine and most people could pronounce it :laugh:

My wife took mine, partly because we never really thought about it but also because she just prefers the sound of it. However, in Scottish marriages you actually keep both names legally (she can legally use her maiden name OR married name for any purpose) which was an interesting piece of trivia that we didn't know until were doing all of the marriage documentation stuff.

Obviously the answer is, though... People are free to do whatever they want :shrug:. I personally would advocate for one partner changing name or both partners double-barrelling, especially if planning kids, just because I think it's good to have a family name? But again that's personal preference.

Last wedding I was at, they double-barrelled their surnames and now they sound posh af :joker:

there is just no need to take another name unless you want to. I dont have any idea why it should be that the woman takes the mans name at this point. Also, from a professional point of view, its just not practical sometimes to change names.

True about professional name; my wife had already taken my name before she started "making a name for herself" but now that she's made some headway with that, especially as she's published several papers and articles, we have commented that if we ever separated for any reason she would probably just have to keep the name and not revert back.

I imagine the same dilemma applies for those who have built a reputation as their maiden name.

I think it makes sense to take one name if you have kids.Whether that’s the man or woman’s doesn’t really matter imo.Just got to decide which you both like best.Or double barrel.

A Julie Chen Moonves tea

I changed my name by deed poll before I married so I had the same name as my son when he was born. Then we got married which was weird as we already had the same name....now we are no longer together and I'm pissed off as its a name people struggle to pronounce never mind spell :laugh:

Nicola slaying everyone on important issues in formal debates we love a queen

Yeah agree with this too.....I am still known as my previous name at work. Mainly because I had a million business cards (admin error) in that name and I have worked at.my current role for nearly 20 years so I was well known as my current name so I.kept it