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Originally Posted by Toy Soldier
(Post 10350716)
The obvious answer is that there's now limitless other varieties of distraction / entertainment, available on demand 24/7. Mobile Internet, YouTube/Netflix, games have come on exponentially, online gaming (Call of Duty etc., now Fortnite)... Less in-person social interaction in general thanks to technology. A decline in physical contact is inevitable.
I'm in two minds about whether it's a good or bad thing really. Probably a good thing if it's just that kids are having less random sex just because they're bored, but a bad thing if it's because they're not forming as many actual relationships and thus not bothered about physical contact.
I was a good wee boy when I was a teenager, I didn't have sex until I was in a proper relationship :hee:. Couple of cheeky blowjobs and quite a lot of... Err... Heavy petting... But no P in V. I was so pure.
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Yeah for my part, the only person I have ever had sex with is my husband. I don't think that's a technology thing. We're both very traditional, and maybe that's also how we are. I know for me, I was very selective with who we chose to "couple" with... he withheld for religious reasons then.
My husband though, he had some promiscuous exes. Some that were quite pushy about it in a dysfunctional way (I think), but it didn't feel right for him at the time. He had female friends who had asked him to play a "bouncer" of sorts for when they were working a with photographer. I think it was for S&M. But he wasn't interested himself. People have always said he had a guardian vibe to him.
I have another friend a bit older than me (male), but still Millennial, that had one experience outside of marriage and after that, he said it didn't feel right and he felt terrible about it and would never do it again (it was also not good sex). That actually ruined prospects for him romantically speaking, because he was seeking something a little deeper than just lust. Until he finally found someone very similar to him idealogically and then they got married and now have a child.
It's very interesting to me, because we would expect that with sex being so prominent in our lives in our media, we'd all be living sex lives that are more akin to Hollywood. Women searching for lustful encounters and obsessed with d***, especially the way some portions of the women's "empowerment" movement went in the 90's, early 00's... I've heard a few people say both in media and irl, that the younger generation (younger than Millennials) may be moving back the other direction, towards non-transactional/non-casual sex and maybe even traditional values. I didn't really believe that, but after thinking about it maybe there is something to that sentiment given the statistics and the epidemic of mental health trends... |
