Ah maaaan forever messing up!!!
 

Just ruined it, again. Drunk outta my nut. Have my daughter Sunday now. The ex found out i have court on the 20th (nothing bad, but i am a dummy, seems i love trouble). So she's fighting me, as ****ing per...

Don't these people see i act out BECAUSE i want her?? FFS. Last time was so nice.

She doesn't fight me on the £500 for Xmas and Birthday's....

Anyway, venting to no one, i've shagged 4 different women in 4 years, im no pimp. One stayed around. But back in 2015 i met a girl at NXT, and we have been "mates" ever since. This ex of mine is just fkcing me over ALL TIME because she said i cant have any other women around, when my daughter is here. Nothing i can do......

My daughter text me and said she loved me. She knows her mum is bitter because i left here!

What age is your daughter? I don't think its helpful for you to use her as an excuse for getting into trouble with the law Swan, it should be the other way round really if you really want to be able to get proper access to her.

Swan your a good guy but you need to sort yourself out!

You need to cut down on the drink at least stop getting wasted

The time you spend with your daughter should be just the two of you and you should not have women that you have been seeing for a short time while there

It’s understandable why your ex is giving you a hard time because you are not setting a good Example

Your past and how you grew up isn’t helping you in living a better life

What’s going on between you and your ex will be hurting your daughter

It may feel like I’m jumping on you but sometimes we all need a friend to tell us what we don’t want to hear.

Always here for you swan

This is the problems having kids

If you split up you still have to speak to the ex every week

If you dont have kids and split up you never speak or hear from your partner/wife ever again

Agree with the others here. Swan, you have an opportunity now to repair and rebuild your relationship with your daughter so you need to concentrate on that. Your ex is not being an arse not wanting other women around her, she's being a mum at least in these early stages.

Enjoy being with your daughter and being the best dad you can be, everything else will sort itself out

Yes, cut down on your drinking.
It's ok to have fun, but don't go over the top.

Echo all the above, if your ex got with another man you would feel the same you need to concentrate on your daughter, unless you have someone special in your life you should not really be introducing her to randoms

Exactly, and it sounds like you don't have her a lot, so why would you even want others around anyway? You should be making the most of that precious time just the two of you

I'm in no position to judge, so I wont.

I'm always here though if you want to vent at someone when drunk though. Keep your daughter close pal, and dont drink when you have her.

This is why I use surrogates for my kids

I do get what you're all saying, im not really a good Dad, i admit that. I don't how to love her how she needs it? No idea if that makes sense?! I try, she tries. Like we'll snuggle and watch films. I wouldn't say awkward, like she'll put her socks on when i tell her to. I cook, we eat. I do hate her mother, like her mother hates me. Maybe is shows.

And people say her mother is decent, she really isn't.

You don't have to do much to be a good dad....just be there with and for her. The easiest way to deal with a crazy ex who will use the child as a weapon is to toe the line. The more time you spend with your daughter and the older she gets she will be able to make her own decisions but until then if mum has custody you need to try and seem as willing as possible to do what she wants. If you don't spend loads of time with your daughter it will feel awkward but the more time you invest, the rewards will come.

Im sure you are a great Dad...your daughter would not be texting that message to you otherwise.
Your ex will look for any excuse it seems for you not to see her so dont give her any... Tbf if you have been separated for more than 4 years its a bit unfair that your ex would not expect you to have a girlfriend with you at some stage...No doubt she has maybe been on dates :shrug:
But you do need to sort out the drinking especially as its getting you in trouble because thats the sort of thing that will stop you from seeing your daughter..:hug:

A mother not wanting a stranger around her daughter is perfectly acceptable

Is your ex a good mother to your daughter?

He is hardly going to drag some random stranger off the street to spend the day with his daughter....:hee:

...and has she met anyone since you split up???

That has nothing to do with the situation I’m afraid

He had sex with someone while his daughter was staying with him and she heard them

It is if she is doing the same thing...:shrug:

If she was doing that swan would of said

Tbh Swan there is no such thing as the perfect parents, we are all learning on the job every day, so don't put yourself down, you are streets ahead of alot of men by the sounds of it, you just need to concentrate on your relationship with your daughter and try and forget about any other outside influences ...giving her time is the main thing ...above giving money or material things

That's true.
We all make mistakes. :blush: