Were you bullied in school?
 

As it says in the title. I’d make an introductory caption (as I usually do) but I’m tired and can’t be arsed.

I was, relentlessly. I was a tall girl, taller than a lot of the boys, and really soft natured and scared of my peers. I was a prime target.

Sorry you went through that, Kate.

Ahh, what doesn't kill you makes you stronger as the song says.

That’s very true. You’re definitely a strong person to have overcome so much and still be standing (and even getting the help you need at this particular point in time) so don’t ever give up hope, love. I’ve got every faith in you.

As for me I wouldn’t say I was bullied as-such (I was more of the underdog who just minded their business so as far as direct toxicity goes people left me alone for the most part) but I did have older years throwing low-key mud on my name for a few different reasons. It all got back to me but face-to-face there was nothing like that, not as far as I can remember. I think also that a lot of kids who look like easy targets really aren’t fazed by what other school-kids who aren’t in their orbit think of them and they get by totally okay (not always, obviously, but a good chunk of the time) so when it comes to things like that I try not to see people as more inherently vulnerable than they are. They might not be.

It weren't relentless in terms of how many people bullied me at School.

But when a bully would pick me out as a victim they'd turn out to be a complete and utter psychopath that would try to physically harm me in ways that no normal person would think to do, which saw two of them get expelled (which as you know it isn't easy to get expelled from UK Schools) but that was my experience of being a victim of bullying at School.

To be balanced though, when I was 4 or 5 years old, I remember smashing a girl's (in the same class as me) face off of a table, which weren't a glorious moment from me obviously.

But tbf I did have a really bad temper back in my School years, I honestly think that my behaviour back then would be looked on in horror by today's generation if there is currently a kid in School behaving like I did back then, understandably so tbf.

nope, i was always among the tallest, so no-one would take me on

No I wasn't thankfully, I didn't see a lot of bullying going on either (that's not to say it never happened obviously)

No. I was always pretty easy going and got on with almost everyone but if someone did try anything I’d give it back in equal amounts if not more sometimes.

I was the biggest lad in my year too by a mile so that might have helped. I was about 6’4 or 5 when I left school (I’m 6’8 now).

I was. But I try not to think about that. It makes me sad.

No.
I was taught to fight back at a very early age.
Most bullies are cowards and don’t care for retaliation.

Well, how tall were/are you?

No I was never bullied.

Over 6ft

i wasnt

No I wasn’t. Wasn’t a lot of bullying in my school.

I was yeah but only in high school, though I had lovely friends who would help me through it

I was the bully

And why did you do it?

I used to pick on a Ghanaian kid (he was my then best friend’s cousin) and I couldn’t even tell you why I did it, not till this day. I’d have to low-key macro-dose on mushrooms or LSD to even reach that level of innermost enlightenment as to why I did some of the things I did when I was younger but I guess I just felt threatened that he was stealing my bestie from me so I was very hostile towards him. But then as time went on I made up with/apologised to him and we had a good chat at some party.

The power and control. And the lunch money I could steal from my victims

As far as embarrassing gossip involving my name back in the day (within the walls of academia) goes one annoying example of it is when I accidentally fell asleep in class in my first week at sixth-form. I said I slept in class one time to my dad when I was in year 3 just to see how he would take it (someone two classes above me slept in class at one point then-recently so that was my inspiration) and come to think of it he gave me a 9 p.m. bedtime-curfew on weekdays for about two years after I told him so if wouldn’t happen again (inasmuch as I was always a night-owl) but it did actually happen to me in lower sixth/Year 12. What they didn’t know is that I was dealing with hardcore insomnia and was off and on diazepam for months but what they did see was the end result of me having not slept a literal wink in over 48 hours (me crashed out over the table for about 5 minutes). They probably thought I was just hungover or lazily disrespectful (not that it’s a rare thing to fall asleep in class) but the circumstance and context behind it couldn’t have been more different. But it still ended up being gossip that got back to me from someone who actually even went to a different sixth-form college.

More or less the same BOTS - I was over 6ft by 13 (weirdly though I didn't grow all that much more, I was 6'2 at 15 and haven't gotten any taller since) and I was already jaded as **** and didn't have much time for idiots :joker:.

I would say if anything, I was a bit less pleasant to some people than I'd have liked looking back if anything. I was never "a bully" though, I'd never have singled anyone out, I was just a bit of an elitist and an arsehole. Thankfully I'm COMPLETELY different now :hee:.

The main thing though that I have genuine regrets about is that I turned a blind eye to an awful lot. I'm sure everyone does at high school, but there were a few kids who had it very rough and I felt like speaking up but didn't. My class the first few years of high school had a pretty tragic mix of a few strange, timid little characters and 5 or 6 of the absolute worst kids I ever encountered. And I mean seriously. Three of them are currently in prison and one of them it's for smuggling/selling guns :umm2:.

5”7-8: well-round medium
5”9: more-or-less the perfect height for a man. Other than to the usual slew of shallow women who have unrealistic expectations about height and expect their men to basically look like basketball-players.
5”10-11: tall average
6”+: tall-tall

Do you agree with my personal ranking of height, S.B.?

smallest boy LT is now 6 feet 4 on his bare feet. He can barely cram into his seat at the football. beyond that height I think you are at a major disadvantage in life in terms of living with things that are made

Yup. 6”4 is just about passable in the normal world. 6”5 and beyond is just astronomical for no reason. Giants tend to scare people with their height. What I’ve also noticed is that men who are more well-rounded height-wise and closer to average but still on the taller side (5”9, perhaps also 5”8 at a push, to 5”11) are more likely to have beards and deeper voices. What they lack in excess height that draws shallow women to guys (i.e., just by virtue of being 6”+) tend to be more strongly endowed in masculinity in other realms. You can’t always have it both ways.