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Resilience
Strength of character comes in all shades and combinations but I feel like resilience is a particular type of strength, so I dunno. I dunno. Let’s just tap into that this Sunday and have a good think about where we’d place ourselves on that continuum.
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I get more upset/rattled about things happening to my family and friends more than myself. When it comes to me, I'm pretty resilient.
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My parents checked out entirely before I turned 15, my mum died when I was 28 and I have a child with serious learning disability, no family support of any kind, no school system support of any kind, no NHS support of any kind (haven't even been able to get a paeds appointment since pre-covid) and we both work full-time.
Non-resilience isn't really an option ... if I have the worst day of my life tomorrow, I'll still have to get up and make everyone's breakfast on Wednesday. There's literally no one else. :joker:... :umm2:. |
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Obviously everyone has their own stuff going on etc etc etc |
there are very few people that sail through life without meeting some serious hurdles along the way and dealing with them as best they can. It's just life
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On the other hand I'm acutely aware that my kids are both great and (touch wood!) my older daughter at approaching-15 is thus far angelic really :joker:, and also I have a great relationship and we're both doing well... when I know that there are plenty of people out there in the same situation (full time caring responsibilities for disabled children) who are on benefits with a fraction of our income, or totally alone without family help OR a partner to split the load. So all things considered, today and the foreseeable future is hard but good. I might not have said the same a few weeks back when both me and my wife were horribly ill with some gastro virus, but she was much worse than me so I had to carry on with the essentials (as mentioned, we have zero help), and I nearly passed out in the cheese section of ASDA. A real low :laugh:. Resilience was lacking a little that day! |
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Been through some family traumas and Bankrupcy so I’m quite resilient…I always know there are people so much worse off than us…proved by stories on this page that are so admirable…
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Home schooling is tough, not getting a break is tough, but not getting a break with a kid who is happy and affectionate 99% of the time is vastly preferable to having 6 hours a day of child-free time and a highly distressed, anxious, destructive, utterly lost kid the rest of the time. |
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Hi You may or not be aware but I work in an autism unit and from what you’ve explained I’d say you’ve 100% made the correct decision ! Sadly ASD units / mainstream schools aren’t for everyone I’m sure you will work it all out !! There’s so much information and advice out there ( online ) .. I’d like to recommend a brilliant website to you It’s called WrongPlanet.com and it’s a forum for anyone on the autism spectrum and also for parents of ASD children. You can peruse without registering but if you want to post any questions or start a thread you just register ( for free) .. https://wrongplanet.net/forums/viewforum.php?f=19 https://wrongplanet.net/forums/ Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Pro |
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As it happens I've never been 100% convinced of the ASD diagnosis, I think it was potentially a slightly lazy catch-all diagnosis, I strongly suspect that she has a birth injury (cord was round her neck at birth and her face was very blue) and some structural brain damage (specifically language processing) but it's never been fully investigated, partly because her paediatrics care has also been terrible and partly because the testing process would likely be quite distressing for no real reason. It would literally just be for the sake of knowing, it wouldn't actually change what's available to her. |
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They say that everyone’s on the spectrum just at different levels I identified as being Aspergers decades ago . I guess at my age I’m just comfortable being who I am .. I ACTUALLY embrace being like this .. my colleagues are all so supportive and I’ve basically got about 20 mothers in our dept as they all look out for me even though we’re all doing the same job … they just know that I can’t cope with certain situations and positively thrive in other situations . Back in the day we were autistic then Aspergers came along and you were either Autistic or Aspergers or whatever So now we are all ASD There’s been loads of changes over the decades I have loads negative traits and far , far fewer positive ones but I absolutely LOVE the positive ones so it’s all good So after decades of just knowing that I wasn’t like anyone else in my family/ circle - after a lot of research I decided I was prob dyslexic ( why choose something so difficult to spell ffs) ( [emoji4]) but I soon realised that I also had Aspergers .. I had more traits than the Asperger teenagers I was supporting .. and tested highly for Asperger’s. Just recently my daughter who is a teacher and shares a lot of my traits tested positive for ADHD and I’m higher on the ADHD scale than she is judging by all the info and examples she shares with me So I suppose I’m dyslexic/ Aspergers/ADHD ! I just got lucky :) If there was a cure found tomorrow I would run a mile .. I love being like this .. he says typing away at 2:09 am :) Edit I do feel a little guilty for our granddaughters though as two of them are already showing telltale “signs “ and I know now that they are gonna have some troubling times ahead of them . Sent from my iPhone using Tapatalk Pro |
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On a basic level that really applies to everyone I suppose; a brilliant author can be borderline innumerate, and vice versa extremely talented technically minded people can struggle with language nuances. A good friend of mine at school for example was offered an accelerated start (skipping 1st year) at University for Computer Science, but needed Higher English. His grades for CompSci, Maths, Physics etc were off the charts but they had a basic requirement of at least a pass in English. He failed it miserably on his first try, I managed to coach him to scraping a C on his second attempt. Extremely intelligent guy, not on the spectrum (or at least not apparently), he just straight up couldn't do it :shrug:. |
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