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Sod_James 06-09-2007 07:59 PM

Should gay ppl be allowed to adpot children?
 
Was a discussion i was having with my fellow classmates the other day. what do you all think. is it right for children to be brought up with gay parents.

Do you reackon it influences young children as they group up to be gay?

Billy 06-09-2007 08:01 PM

Honestly, and I apologise to everyone who takes offence to this, but I dont think its fair on the child. They would get really bullied alot throughout their life

Lauren 06-09-2007 08:02 PM

Why would they turn gay just because their parents are?
Gay people with straight parents obviously didn't grow up to be straight just because their parents were.

I don't see any problem with it, often the strongest relationships are gay relationships and this provies the perfect environment for a child to grow up in.
The only thing that is questionable is whether they're bullied because of it during the immature stage - but this should not be basis enough to stop gay people having children.

Sod_James 06-09-2007 08:02 PM

Interesting. this was one of the issues raised the other day.

Lauren 06-09-2007 08:04 PM

So someone should be blocked from having and loving a child just because they may be bullied?
People are bullied when they have straight parents, for various things from hair to overweightedness... but you're willing to stop someone from having a child that would grow up in a loving environment, on the off-chance they're bullied for having gay parents?

Sod_James 06-09-2007 08:06 PM

I see nothing wrong with it but being bi probably sways it a little.

Billy 06-09-2007 08:07 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Lauren
So someone should be blocked from having and loving a child just because they may be bullied?
People are bullied when they have straight parents, for various things from hair to overweightedness... but you're willing to stop someone from having a child that would grow up in a loving environment, on the off-chance they're bullied for having gay parents?

I was just saying my opinion?

Sod_James 06-09-2007 08:08 PM

Yeh thats fair. your entitled to your opinion.

KKBL 06-09-2007 08:09 PM

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Originally posted by OfficialSuperstar
Honestly, and I apologise to everyone who takes offence to this, but I dont think its fair on the child. They would get really bullied alot throughout their life
no offence to aanyone but i have to agree with you there.sorry

Sod_James 06-09-2007 08:11 PM

but i suppose thats like saying you would deny a forgein couple from adopting a british child with different colour skin, of which i fink is fine by the way before ppl mite fink im racist. A child could be bullied for that so should coloured ppl not be allowed to adopt a child of a different ethnic group?

Billy 06-09-2007 08:15 PM

More people have come to accept differnet races and ethnic groups in our lives today. Im not saying that gay people cannot adopt, I just think they should think about the childs life first

Lauren 06-09-2007 08:16 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by OfficialSuperstar
Quote:

Originally posted by Lauren
So someone should be blocked from having and loving a child just because they may be bullied?
People are bullied when they have straight parents, for various things from hair to overweightedness... but you're willing to stop someone from having a child that would grow up in a loving environment, on the off-chance they're bullied for having gay parents?

I was just saying my opinion?
I was just saying mine too? I'm sorry it didn't agree with yours.

Ah stuff this, I'm outta here. The whole "it's my opinion" line to stop me from posting MINE is tiring.

Sod_James 06-09-2007 08:17 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by OfficialSuperstar
More people have come to accept differnet races and ethnic groups in our lives today. Im not saying that gay people cannot adopt, I just think they should think about the childs life first
Interesting point.

Jack 06-09-2007 08:22 PM

I think if a gay couple are in a stable relationship and could support a child then, if they want to, I can't see why they can't adopt. Yes they may be bullied, but this would happen with any child who have "different" parents. Years ago, when divorce was rather uncommon children used to get bullied if their parents split up. The only way stereotypes can be broken, is for society to move on.

I think, if the parents can provide the child with a happy life then that's "fair" for the child. It's the thousands of teenagers in this country who have unplanned babies which are brought up into an unstable and difficult life which is unfair.

Scarlett. 06-09-2007 08:24 PM

Of course they should be allowed to it is extremely old fashioned to disagree

Stu 06-09-2007 08:24 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by OfficialSuperstar
Honestly, and I apologise to everyone who takes offence to this, but I dont think its fair on the child. They would get really bullied alot throughout their life
Which is the attitude we should be changing. Not letting gay people adopt will only further burrow that problem.

Hugo 06-09-2007 08:26 PM

No they shouldn't. I have gay friends and accept gays into the community. But it's not fair on the child. They should grow up in a normal family and have a male and female role model.

Sod_James 06-09-2007 08:32 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by Jack
I think if a gay couple are in a stable relationship and could support a child then, if they want to, I can't see why they can't adopt. Yes they may be bullied, but this would happen with any child who have "different" parents. Years ago, when divorce was rather uncommon children used to get bullied if their parents split up. The only way stereotypes can be broken, is for society to move on.

I think, if the parents can provide the child with a happy life then that's "fair" for the child. It's the thousands of teenagers in this country who have unplanned babies which are brought up into an unstable and difficult life which is unfair.
Yes thats a good point. one of the points i brought up in the discussions the other day.

Princess 06-09-2007 08:37 PM

The thing with gay couples if unless they absolutley didn't want a child 100% they wouldn't adopt. Adoption is something that is done lightly. As long as the child is loved,looked after and cared for whether their parents are gay or straight shouldn't make any difference.

dupin 06-09-2007 08:39 PM

Of course they should. Anyone who says differently has a very old-fashioned, and in my opinion, a very unfair way of looking at it. I completely agree with Lauren - even things as common as having ginger hair is subject to bullying these days, so should we also say anyone with ginger hair in their genes shouldn't have a child, in case their child gets bullied? That's ridiculous, and it's no different to say that homosexual parents shouldn't be allowed children - they're entitled to it, I think.

Matt08 06-09-2007 08:48 PM

I think they should be allowed, if they can prove to social services etc that they can look after a child and provide him/her with the attention and love that he/she deserves then they should have every right to adopt them.

xDramatick 06-09-2007 08:51 PM

Let me put this way, since I'm gay, and hope to adopt when I'm older.

There are thousands of children in adoption homes who have no chance of parents adopting them because straight couples like to have their own kids. Obvs there's expections, but generally, most aren't adopted. chances are they'd have a better life if they were adopted, regardless of who by.

They'd get bullied? Maybe so, but I believe they shouldn't be. We're in an age now where people should learn to accept you for who you are and even though it don't always happen like that, it should. Also, I'm presuming most of you are talking about young kids, but what about 8-13+ year olds? They sometimes get a say in who adopts them, and if they didn't want to be adopted by a gay couple, they can say so. More than likely they'll be appreciative of the opportunity.

I completely disagree with Checkmate's choice of words. You saying that they should have a 'normal' family, a male and female rolemodel. What if you're a single parent? Single mom's with a son for example. He won't have a father figure. Like a son with two dad's, no mother figure. Whoever said it earlier about the child turning gay, maybe they will, maybe they won't, but whatever they end up, they'll probably be accepting of everyone's sexualities, and it'd be great if they did.

So yeah, I believe they should. Maybe I'm biased but evs.
My opinion.

Wasted 06-09-2007 08:52 PM

I don't see why not, as long as they get through all the procedures that adoptive parents always do to be allowed to adopt a child.

I don't think the parents would "influence" the child into being gay at all. A lot of gay people have straight parents, so obviously the sexuality is not influenced by the parents, and I'm sure it works vice versa.

Sod_James 06-09-2007 08:54 PM

Quote:

Originally posted by xDramatic
Let me put this way, since I'm gay, and hope to adopt when I'm older.

There are thousands of children in adoption homes who have no chance of parents adopting them because straight couples like to have their own kids. Obvs there's expections, but generally, most aren't adopted. chances are they'd have a better life if they were adopted, regardless of who by.

They'd get bullied? Maybe so, but I believe they shouldn't be. We're in an age now where people should learn to accept you for who you are and even though it don't always happen like that, it should. Also, I'm presuming most of you are talking about young kids, but what about 8-13+ year olds? They sometimes get a say in who adopts them, and if they didn't want to be adopted by a gay couple, they can say so. More than likely they'll be appreciative of the opportunity.

I completely disagree with Checkmate's choice of words. You saying that they should have a 'normal' family, a male and female rolemodel. What if you're a single parent? Single mom's with a son for example. He won't have a father figure. Like a son with two dad's, no mother figure. Whoever said it earlier about the child turning gay, maybe they will, maybe they won't, but whatever they end up, they'll probably be accepting of everyone's sexualities, and it'd be great if they did.

So yeah, I believe they should. Maybe I'm biased but evs.
My opinion.
Well said. completly agree with every word.

Conzors 06-09-2007 08:56 PM

I dont see why not.. no-one has to know that the childs parents are gay, unless the child tells them..
i also agree with official superstar.. i child would get bullied.. but no-one has toknow that they are gay.. and the [[cant think of the right word]] erm.. homphoccia {i think thats is} is just nonsence.. lol..




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