Is it wrong to hate a close family member?
 

I really, REALLY hate my brother for reasons I won't go into at the moment, but I wanted to know if it's wrong to do so? I mean, people always say 'Blood is thicker than water', but in this case it just doesn't work. I know it sounds really spontaneous for me to say so. And I'm talking about it in general. Of course you'd hate a parent or sibling if they assualted you physically all the time. Answers would be appreciated. Oh, and I mean 'close' as in siblings/parents.

In my opinion; with good justification, I don't think it's wrong at all. If there's a perfectly fine reason behind it, then I don't see there being any problem.

Well it depends on what they've done,and if you can forgive them.

Everybody hates their siblings sometimes, its perfectly normal for you to say, 'Oh I hate them!', because you probably have to live with them 24/7 and you can't be best friends all of the time. I'm sure you like them most of the time rather than hate them. Everybody falls out.

I dunno. I have a strong dislike my sister. Infact my other sister doesn't even talk to her any more. And my Dad hasn't spoken to his brother for about 15 years. And my Mom's brother hasn't seen her in three years!

It depends, do you actually mean "hate" ? As in, no love at all, no remorse if they died etc.

Even physical/emotional abuse can't take away every ounce of love.

I have never hated my siblings but imo it is okay if there is a reason behind it.

When you grow up things will maybe change and you'll get closer. If he's younger than he's probably not mature enough, and with age you might become closer. I don't think it's wrong to dislike a family member, but you can't hate them as they'll always be in your life. :tongue:

no i hated my mum for a while for something but doont mind her now but we still dont get on that much everything she says annoys me haha

I strongly dislike my cousin Paul hes about 34, hes done many bad things within our family (i wont go into detail because its very personal).. but lets just say hes just come out of prison and he stole money from my mum x

That's a reason to dislike a family member. If he's a scumbag and does stuff like that, then I'd dislike him as well; but if he whines and gets his way whenever he wants your parents to buy him a Wii, that's not really a reason to hate him.

I treasure every minute when I'm with my family I losted my daughter 4 years ago and it made me realise one day we're here and tomorrow we could be gone so I make every effort I can to go and see my family and do things for them because I never know if you're see them again not a nice thought but it's so true.

Although i hate to say things like this, he really is a scumbag =( x

Jackie, that's a lovely thing to believe in.

Yeah i agree! And Jackie im sorry about your daughter x

I strongly doubt you hated your mum. Maybe you disliked her to a great extent...

I actually strongly dislike my brother. I won't say hate... yet. But some of the things he has done give me a good reason to use the word hate.

Lauren I LOVE your banner!

My Uncle spun a story to a local newspaper about my Dad's business and stole from my granny.

My brother has teased me all my life about my weight and called me a '******' in front of all his friends, and told them so on MSN too. I don't know, maybe he was just trying to be impressive.

I think its perfectly possible just as it is to hate anyone else. Of course theres a connection but theres a large portion of my family who I wouldn't care about if they all dropped down dead tomorrow.

Jees, remind me not to get on the wrong side of you! Lol!

Brothers normally do this to each other and also sisters but it's just normal i bet he loves you really deep down.

If i'm honest I hate all my family to an extent
I hate some members of the family more than others but I find I have no really love for any of them which sounds horrible. I could easily live without them for the rest of my life.
My mum is probably the only one I really like.

I guess so. :bigsmile:

Well if it does happen you might realise how much you really miss them.