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Originally Posted by BBUKAUSFAN
people can have views on others its not bullying unless is face to face?
its called bitching behind peoples backs!
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You are very wrong, adult bullying is not face to face.. it rarely gets to that level. Elementary, Junior and Highschool bullying is more face to face because at that age agression is the only way to express themselves. However, once they become adults, they are more intellectually equipped and use behind the scenes manipulation.
The following information was pulled from a site that deals with adult bullying (primarily workplace bullying) but it is applied to any situation as the modus operandi generally follow the same pattern:
A skilled bully is usually an expert at manipulation. Through artful, indirect and devious methods, he influences and controls others. Like a clever politician, a manipulative bully keeps his desires hidden. Pretending to pursue the greater good with a fervency that inspires admiration and respect, and most people accept his claims of selfless pursuit of noble causes.
But underneath his self-righteous image lies the essence of a manipulator: someone who shrewdly and deviously attempts to control how you feel, think and behave. People were shocked when Conor was up for eviction, they never thought he would be because of this smoke screen he built.