In the context in which the word was used, calling him "out of control" was truly pathetic. The way Bayleigh reacted was as if he'd called out to her, hey ******, go get me a drink
Even if we accept that everyone's boundaries are different, we must allow for people to find out where they are. If Bayleigh was truly "offended" just by hearing the word, all she had to do was explain to him that she would much prefer it if he used "the n-word" instead of the full term. In turn, JC could've hit straight back and said "
sure, and if you don't mind, I'd much prefer it if you used "the m-word" instead of the full term"..
This argument of one term "weighing" more than the other is quite ridiculous, given that offensive terms are size/race/gender specific. Any term that is more personal to you is obviously the one that will carry most weight.