Roberto & Kemal are both right tbh but Kemal is more right?
Kemal gets the final say and it's not Roberto's place even if it's fair for him to have his view on it. Like you can't say Kemal's
wrong about how he wanted to do it, that's up to him.
It's a bit similar to telling people you're getting married in a way (I get there's more of a stigma to coming out and it's not the same situation but just similar in the scenarios of revealing something big and personal to your loved ones). It's fair for someone to think it's disrespectful if you told others, especially strangers / millions of people, before you told your parents about getting married but regardless of how someone else views it, you can go about that however you want. It's still those peoples' choice about how they want to reveal it and who they want to reveal it to first, etc.