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Honestly talking about it being in his childhood or "DNA" (by which I assume she just means part of his psychology) isn't the worst part or all THAT bad, there are always reasons for people being who or what they are unless you believe in silly fairytale concepts like "evil"... the really horrendous part was when she said "hey it didn't kill them so..." as though something as despicable and scarring as childhood abuse can be brushed off as nothing because "you're still alive right?". A really misguided thought process.