[Cherie]

Originally Posted by Toy Soldier

Sometimes these things just hit a bubbling-over point and open up into a wider societal discussion. I do think that can be hard for those close to the person who happened to be "that case" that hit the news hard but it's somewhat unavoidable and it doesn't mean that these wider implications aren't important or should be ignored.

I can guess you can draw a direct comparison to George Floyd which, of course, very quickly was not just about George Floyd but institutional problems in the US that go back centuries.

Likewise, this murder has developed into a wider conversations about something that has effected women forever, and has now unveiled cultural aspects of "masculinity" and various other offshoots... you don't always get to decide who or what becomes the figurehead representation of wider issues, and unfortunately saying "that person might not have wanted to be a figurehead" isn't enough to start ignoring those conversations.

Like I said though I do have empathy for the families and friends in these situations, privacy is certainly affected.

I think they is a time and a place for both, if the family specifically asked that the vigil did not go ahead in what world can it be right that their wishes were just cast aside

its not like the issue is going to be resolved tomorrow, they should have waited out of respect, maybe Sarah's parents/family would have liked to attend themselves but currently are not in a position to