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Originally Posted by AnnieK
People shouldn't judge until they are in that position. As you said you did what was right for you all at the time. It doesn't sound like you made that decision lightly and the decision you made was for the right reasons. 
When I was 16, 2 of my best friends got pregnant around the same time. They both came to speak to my mum about it (one's mum had passed away and one had abandoned her family). One kept the baby,one made the decision to terminate. My mum always said that the one who made the decision to terminate made the tougher,but ultimately fairer decision all round. The one who kept the baby was the one who had lost her mum very shortly before getting pregnant. She tried to replicate the mother/child bond instead of dealing with her grief. She spent years and years struggling for money and struggling with her mental health. It was very sad to watch.
I spent years and years (and thousands of pounds) struggling to have a child but I am absolutely pro-choice. Children are a blessing but they need love, nurture and a stable life in order to thrive. If that cannot be provided or they were conceived in a situation that is out of the control of the mother, then sometimes termination is the only option for some.
I don't believe in abortion as a form of contraception or late on in pregnancy (unless for dire medical reasons). |
That really is a lovely, great post. The guilt was there for a long time, but absolutely no regrets. My gf at the time is now married and has 2 children of her own (our relationship was a rocky one, great at times, very bad at others, no environment for a child, when we were still children ourselves) and im happy for her.
Also, im so glad you were successful
I think at times, had we had the baby, what would our lives be now, what would the child's life be now? If im honest, probably not great all round. It wouldn't have been fair on the baby, it's that simple. The right decision was made.
We also did the right thing (not right for all) imo, not to tell our families, although my gf did tell her older sister, she was very helpful. Had we told our families it might have made things more tricky.
Back to topic though. As i said in a previous post. Im 100% against this ruling. Nothing will ever change my mind and i think the US is a pretty disgusting county on the whole.