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I watched the Contra video - I agree that it's a good watch with a view to building a balanced view on some of these issues. I think it's far from being a balanced view in itself but I think that's somewhat inevitable and I think she is (probably) aware of that limitation on some level (but overlooks it quite a bit throughout). But yes, a good watch for some understanding of that specific perspective, I absolutely agree about the need for understanding that the "hateful people online" are mostly hurt/confused/angry/already embroiled in aggressive backlash from all sides (I can't remember exactly how she phrases it).

I honestly think mass social media is the absolute worst place to be having these sorts of discussions, for multiple reasons. Even smaller "community" forums like arr TiBB are (usually) better. We have our moments, anyway.