My parents checked out entirely before I turned 15, my mum died when I was 28 and I have a child with serious learning disability, no family support of any kind, no school system support of any kind, no NHS support of any kind (haven't even been able to get a paeds appointment since pre-covid) and we both work full-time.
Non-resilience isn't really an option ... if I have the worst day of my life tomorrow, I'll still have to get up and make everyone's breakfast on Wednesday. There's literally no one else.
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