[Redway]

People thinking “moving-in-silence” seasons means someone’s automatically going through a tough time in their life. Being a bit quiet about where exactly you’re at and how things are going with you beyond being okay isn’t inherently a negative. There’s a season to celebrate openly with everyone, sure, but there’s also a season where you might want take more of a conscious step back for a minute and manoeuvre your zone quietly, but it can be positive. The radar-top can wait. A bit more quietness than usual about your plans and what you’re doing in life doesn’t automatically mean the person’s going through bad times or worried about a lot. Sometimes people do that and people speculate the worst and thing something’s seriously wrong but a lot of those concerns are very over-exaggerated or just totally unnecessary. Moving in silence for a lot of people is literally just that, and it’s not like it’s bound to be forever. You might want to keep quiet about your new job until you’ve been there for a while or are a bit closer to being in the career/job you really want to be in or you might not be ready to have kids if you’re married until the time feels right, and that’s between you and your spouse, not the whole world. That’s okay. People with loose tongues are gonna gossip anyway so you might as well get comfortable and set boundaries while you’re at it. Your personal/professional/relationship business is your business.

You’re not on a path to permanent childlessness (if having kids would be your ball), a career you’re not best-happy with but you might be sort of stuck with for now (even if it’s a good job) or a mental breakdown by keeping silent about certain things until the time seems right. You don’t have to update your LinkedIn profile 99 times a day and judge people who didn’t go to certain Russell-Group unis (as if Loughborough isn’t better than Southampton main) for people to know that you’re earning money. So long as you and the people closest to you know, it doesn’t matter what other people think. They might be biting their words in two years, when your present vision’s clearer to them (not that you even owe them that much). If it makes perfect sense to them in the meantime, it does. If it doesn’t, it doesn’t. There’s not your problem. The only person you’ve got to fully answer to is yourself.