Ali gets bolshy and abusive when she feels confident and in control.
When she is on the backfoot she shrinks and goes into victim mode.
So, her cycle runs;
- Be bolshy and attempt to control others
- Get told to **** off and stop being controlling
- Retreat into victim mode
- Stay quiet for a while she mends bridges
- Start again from Stage 1
Right now we are in stage 5 again.