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Originally Posted by Niamh.
This absolutely happens but that doesn't mean there aren't women who are just awful people out there who use their kids in that way too. I have 2 examples of this from real life. Gavins ex is one, I know he wasn't an abusive pos because I've been with him for 20 plus years, he's a fantastic dad to my son and my stepson. His ex tried her best to stop him seeing my stepson, he spent years in and of court fighting for access. Now my stepson is an adult she has no relationship with him, Gav has a great relationship with him. She has two other kids with her ex husband who she just left in his care when they were pre teens and went to live abroad with her new b/f. She's never met her only grandchild who is almost 2 years old.
I have another close male relative that's going through something similar and have seen pretty conclusive evidence that his ex is pretty unhinged and using their children too, I won't go into details in that one because it's on going stuff.
That being sad of course I've also irl seen examples of dead beat and abusive fathers using their children
You know me, I'm all for women's rights and protections but that doesn't mean that there aren't awful mothers out their trying to use their children to hurt genuinely good dads too and it is a little more common than you're saying, in my experience anyway
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…yeah, I completely agree with this…working with and around families for many years, there are many causes and reasons for a custodial parent ‘using children’ and wanting to refuse access to an ex partner and sometimes it can be because of a domestic abuse/in safeguarding and consideration of the child…but sometimes it can be a ‘power and control’ that is used and that doesn’t benefit the child at all because the reasoning and motivation is much more negative than the child’s interest of having access to their other parent….separation/divorce…what comes before and after etc…?..can be a very bitter and damaging process and no more so than for a child…I can’t obviously tell any stories because they’re not mine to tell but it’s absolutely something that doesn’t involve any wrong doing by a parent that’s being denied access to their child…