[Maru]

I'd have to go with my grandmother as the female figure (when she was available) and she was over-protective but she had pretty solid reasons for it, I think... my mother was not fully with it and had severe disabilities, so I was a caretaker as a child. Including and not limited to handling a lot of her personal business (like talking to people, phone calls and billing, etc) because I could sound like a full adult... my mother would get a lot of run around because of the way she both talked, would mistreat people when they misunderstood her especially when she was having one of her paranoid moments. On top of this, there were other people in the home with other physical disability, so I got used to being the people wrangler (No surprise there, I married one also lol)... that's why I really don't mind the level of anxiety my grandmother might've had because she had a lot going on.

Funny enough, it was my mother who had the more relaxed attitude and because I was already showing independence, she didn't really care that much if I went and did my own thing...