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Originally Posted by Beso
That's something to be proud off. The divorce rates.
It shows good character.
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It's an interesting stat and it would be interesting to know the reason. Perhaps men expect less from one another. Studies have shown that marriage between gay men is not only more successful, but happier.
I can only speak for what I hear from straight friends, but there is still such an imbalance in domestic labour, childcare, in the women carrying the mental load. I think that they leads to pushback and resentment by the woman in the relationship, rightly so. It seems from what I have heard that when children are involved, marriage between a man and a woman often becomes this constant negotiation with one another. "You went out last night so I want to go out today so you need to look after the kids" or "You need to have them for X hours this morning because you're out all day and I want some time to myself before that" and I totally understand why this happens.
Perhaps that's it - perhaps it's because gay marriage is by and large less likely to include kids, which adds a very complex angle and often a huge strain to a couple. But then lesbian couples have the highest divorce rate, so who knows.
There is an old cliche that lesbian couples tell one another they love each other after the second date, and they move super quick. I think there is a little truth behind that, but not much. Maybe women just have a higher standard for themselves - perhaps men are too scared to call something quits for worry of looking like a failure.
All I know is someone who has constantly remarried should not be worrying themselves about gay people marrying who they love.