[Feefs]

I admire and appreciate your willingness to argue with us on this one Girlie. If you don't like Paul, then fair enough. If you don't like him because he doesn't tan as well as your boyfriend, then I think he's probably not that upset. I tan terribly, so it's not surprising that you didn't believe me when I said I liked Paul before the limpet attraction thing.

I think lots of the reasons to like or dislike Paul are daft, but generally subjective, so it's up to you. However, I do know my own mind. I didn't suddenly acquire rose-tinted specs for Paul when he and Helen started flirting. In the early days I thought (wrongly I now realise) that Paul was far too good for Helen. I learned to like Helen more and more over the last few weeks. Not because Paul liked her, but because her personality really developed in the house and in particular Paul brought out the best in her. Hanging around with him also meant I made more of an effort to pay proper attention to her, not just the perception of her presented by the media.

Paul certainly thought Helen had charisma, but he survived nominations more than her, so he couldn't know she was more popular than him.

I'm a boring old 28 year-old, and your boyfriend may seem more mature, but maturity isn't everything. Paul might have appeared to be a typical lad of the sort you dislike, but my additional years of experience has taught me to differentiate between lad (young man) behaviour and lad (lout) behaviour. Paul was 25 year old graduate with no committments when he went into the house, and that's how he behaved. He didn't feel the need to prove how sensible, intelligent or grown-up he was, which is a form of maturity some people don't acquire until their mid-life crisis. Perhaps he did get excited at Star Wars, but not throwing a tantrum over being nominated is more important.