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Susieq, you are quite write when you said the following:


I would turn that around and say "If I want an easy life, I sometimes need to be deceitful".

You're right, both gay and straight people have a lot of issues about bi-sexual people, and it is indeed sad that bi's sometimes have to hide who they really are because of people's ignorance and intolerance. It would be a great world if people could just be people irrespective of race, colour, creed, ability, or sexuality - a Utopian ideal I'm sure you agree, but if individuals hide their 'true' identities is this not perpetuating the ignorance? I don't know the answer.



This is true, but I know some 'gay' people who I occasionally socialise with, would have had a problem with me If I said I was bi-sexual. In conversations I have heard them speaking passionately about bi-sexuals being in denial etc, they want the best of both worlds.

Maybe I am a coward, but as someone who only in the past 6 months told my family I was bi-sexual, and some of my family only tolerate me now. I don't need the grief of being 'open' with everyone. Maybe when I am older and wiser, and in a 'stable' relationship. Maybe then I could be more open.

Revealing your sexuality, to just family and friends is daunting, but 6 million! Everyone knows that gay people are accepted in general, more then bi-sexuals. So Josh may too have opted for the easy life.

I still maintain, in the environment Paul and Josh were in, Paul should have kept his mouth shut! And I repeat why care if someone is being truthful about their sexuality?, don't project your problems on to someone else!