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I am goiing to sound harsh here

But when these things happen, like ROB said, you have to carry on.

Much as it seems like it, time does not stand still, life goes on.

I try and maintain an air of detachment and throw myself into the day to day grind of living. That is how I try and cope with these things.

The only problem is, it makes you appear heartless and indifferent.

I just remember the slogan of the Royal British Legion, whose appeal I support every year, "Remember the dead, but don't forget the living"