[IndigoJo]

As he said on the HL, he waited for a long time in there before starting something with Noirin, making sure of his feelings and HERS, before he did anything that could have upset people. He didn't rush into stuff with Norin, he only did it when he knew that he had feelings for her and thought that there was a future.

All he did wrong was believe that Noirin was genuine!!!

I've been cheated on so I don't defend him lightly, but can see how it happened. He's not a jerk.