[Romantic Old Bird]

Personally, my opinion is you need to think about how yiur actions will hurt others.

Good advice from Ruth.

The only thing I would add is that when you look back on this time in your life, make sure you don't find that you're ashamed of your behaviour. I know hormones are crashing around, and it's great to feel you are attractive, but your behaviour can really hurt someone and affect their self-esteem in the long term.

If it feels wrong and uncomfortable, then it probably is wrong.

My suggestion is honesty. It takes bravery and maturity ro be honest in relationships, but it really does pay off in the long term.

Situation one: tell the girl, as kindly and gently as possible that you really don't feel the same for her, and that you would like to break off the relationship. Tell her that she is a great girl, and there is nothing that she has said or done, it's just how it is.
The other girl in this set-up - well, using your sensitivity I would suggest there is no hurry in committing to a new relationship. It could be a 'grass is greener' situation. Whatever didn't work out a year ago probably won't again. Anyway, leave it for a while.


If you really like the girl in situation two, I think you should tell your friend that you would like to see her. If you can't face that, imagine how he would feel if he found out. If you don't want either to tell him or for him to find out, then don't do it - because he WILL find out.

I know I sound like an old biddy, but I remember this stage very well, even though it is a long time ago. I remember the hurts and the anguish. Even though we were all pretty young, I took it seriously and it took me a very long time to trust anyone or like myself again.

Have a great time, but be honest from the start. When you meet someone really significant in your life, you will have no doubts at all about how you feel.