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Old 18-01-2010, 07:47 AM #47
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People should be thinking about why Sov's behaviour seemed to nosedive after being up for nomination. Psychologists have remarked that being nominated is a body blow to a HMs confidence which can be fatal. In most cases, nominations eventually lead to eviction. The feeling of rejection can be very intense, IMHO Sov's reaction to surviving eviction was an indication of just how deeply she had been affected by it. The huge high that came form her survival must surely have been the result of experiencing a massive low.

She tried to get along and find a place in the group in the first week, underneath her tough exterior worried she could not fit in and not connect with anyone. The nomination results crystallised her fears. Realising her effort had failed, she has given up.
When people feel rejected they start to push people away, in order to prevent further rejection. Its a defensive mechanism. They also have to use self-affirmation to boost their confidence, bigging themselves up because they feel no one else will compliment them. If Sov were arrogant, why would she have cut herself?

In order to protect herself from rejection she pushes people away, leading to more rejection. Thus a vicious circle builds.

I think the person we saw in the first week is the real her, and what we have seen since nominations is her insecurity and defensiveness. Its all about rejection, she admitted as much to Sisqo.

The fact she behaved relatively well in the first week and was still nominated indicates to me she is too different to be accepted by the other HMs no matter how she behaves.
Had she been nice as pie she would still be up last week and this week. This set of housemates is the most conservative bunch I have ever seen. Sov is the only non-conformist in the entire line-up. Human beings like people who are to some extent similar to them, they dislike anyone who is overly different. Its human nature.

Looking at class and social background, Sov has the least in common with the least number of other HMs. She has nothing in common with any of them, except maybe Sisqo, but he's American and middle class, so even there it's very limited.
All of her fellow British HMs have no common ground with her at all.

Stephanie: Class differences are insurmountable, nothing in common. The class hostility between her and Sov may be a shock to those deluded people who think class does not matter.
Vinnie: Too controlling, and nothing in common.
Ivana: Absolute Zero common ground.
Dane: Too Middle Class, conformist, no common ground.
Jonas: Too Middle Class, conformist, no common ground.
Stephen: American Bible Basher.

I believe Sov was rejected by the others instantly, before she said or did anything, she's too different, not conservative enough, not middle class enough. Human nature dictates that she would be up regardless of anything due to being not similar enough.

To me its most disturbing that Steven is tolerated in the group, as he is the personification of the "God Botherer" that British people have no time for.

I believe she should stay in, to antagonise the control freaks and elites, and so she can work through her problems by herself. Like most creative people, she's not a social creature so will have to learn to fake it (a skill I have learned over the years).

Last edited by Suguler; 18-01-2010 at 07:57 AM. Reason: typos and focusing points
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