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Originally Posted by WOMBAI
That sounds very much like a 'blame the mother' way of thinking! I hear no mention of the father's responsibility! It does take two!
There are plenty of good strong mothers who are quite capable of disciplining their children - including boys! Many children are fatherless because of irresponisble fathers who refuse to take responsibility for their own actions.
Many fathers are just too weak to cope with fatherhood - because they are too selfish and have never grown up properly! The women are nearly always the ones that face their responsibility - and rarely abandon their children the way many men do!
Of course, ideally, children should have two loving, responsible parents - but we don't, never have and never will live in an ideal world! In the past, men were rarely there for their children - their role was to bring in the money - the rest was mainly left to the mothers. Although things have improved in that respect, still all too many men run away from their responsibilities.
There are faults on both sides - but educating women and men into taking equal responsibility for the consequences of their actions - instead of blaming women for making poor choices - seems likely to be much more productive!
And men can only be trapped if they allow themselves to be! Any man/boy that has any sense and has sex (outside of a strong, loving relationship) should understand the need to use protection. Despite what the woman may say about the pill etc - he should take action to protect himself! Just common sense! Short of being raped - he has no right to whinge about being trapped.
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Whilst in a lot of cases the weak men arguement does hold true, there are also women who walk away from the kids and family home, often without any real reason. The father then is left to bring up the children. There are also cases where one parent dies. So in some cases it isnt about sidestepping responsibility.
But for the rest of your points, no disagreement. Good post.