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Originally Posted by WOMBAI
That sounds very much like a 'blame the mother' way of thinking! I hear no mention of the father's responsibility! It does take two!
the rest was mainly left to the mothers. Although things have improved in that respect, still all too many men run away from their responsibilities.
There are faults on both sides - but educating women and men into taking equal responsibility for the consequences of their actions - instead of blaming women for making poor choices - seems likely to be much more productive!
And men can only be trapped if they allow themselves to be! Any man/boy that has any sense and has sex (outside of a strong, loving relationship) should understand the need to use protection. Despite what the woman may say about the pill etc - he should take action to protect himself! Just common sense! Short of being raped - he has no right to whinge about being trapped.
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Women choose the father of their children. Choose somebody who is likely to stick around and be a good father. Men do not like wearing rubbers so it will never ever be difficult for a woman to get a man to have sex with her bareback; truth is, men dont think straight when theyre horny and stiff. Cliched but true. Its women who carry the consequences so I cant imagine why you would let a man **** you without any contraception. Unless you actually want to get pregnant. Insist he rubbers up if not.
The choices a man has regards children pretty much end when he shoots his load. From that point on its all about what the woman wants. A man can make a drunken mistake but its the woman who then has the power to make him pay for that mistake. If they both agree it was a mistake then why should he then be forced to be a father when she has all the options? Having children is a womans prerogative so spare me the equal responsibility nonsense. It will only be equal when men have a 50% say in whether a woman carrys that child for 9 months and then what they do with it after its birth.
And if these gang members have only had a female parent then how can you blame men for how they turned out? You can only blame the parent that has been there. I agree that single mothers CAN raise decent children. But those who raise bad children deserve criticism for it. Like Ive said, THEY chose the father of that child in the first place so if he buggered off then you made a BAD CHOICE.
It only takes two to conceive a child. Actually, these days it only needs one.