It's obvious that Lea has a bad temper and she confronts people. So Grace was just poking the caged animal with a stick when she told her about Sam in "hush" "hush". Because of Lea's temper people are quick to put her in a bad light.
However, she's just acting on what people are telling her. Too bad she can't step back to analyze the entire situation.
I have nothing but love for her. Except when she gets raunchy with her sex talk.