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Originally Posted by housemate
I have two daughters, if my Husband EVER said something like that (even as a joke) I would lose all respect for him.
Its a despicable thing to say ... his poor daughter must be horrified, I hope she's still on her School holidays, I dread to think how it would impact on her within a classroom!!
Stupid man needs to consider what kind of a mess he's potentially creating for his Family whether he's 'having a laugh' or not!!
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Its not wrong for you to have a unique view of the world and for you to control your family in its own unique sub-culture,
but,
I would recommend you realize that your world is NOT necessarily how the rest of the world runs its life, perceives things and makes judgments.
Did you know that for centuries it was not uncommon for Chinese newlyweds to be taken to their room by the wedding party where one matron from the village would be sent to watch them inside their bedroom,
and,
afterward confirm the marriage was 'consumed' by waving a blood-spotted sheet to the crowd from the window.
That was proper.
Did you know that in this modern day there are Muslim cultures that STILL practice something like this with an eye-witness and even the modern version of actual video being used to confirm the virginity and then consummation!
Today. In 2010 this actually goes on.
But it may be true that if your husband said such a thing in a joking manner it would be awkward, not match your family humour, delivered poorly. It simply would come across wrong.
You would disrespect him more,
but,
The truth is that Dave (and im no Dave fan) but he does have the sense of humour to say such things and it will be taken well by his family,
and,
inside the humour it is communicating what is a healthy sexuality inside his culture - the idea that sex is something saved for newlyweds at which time it becomes honourable and not something to be ashamed of.