[Shaun]

I think maybe I picked the wrong word - cause for offence is more appropriate.

I see it as quite similar to the N word. There are those amongst the LGBT community (I hate to call them a community since the majority of us don't sit around in pink gazebos sipping tea (though I'd like to)) who have kind of embraced the word in an empowering sense.

But they're naive to overlook the historically bad contexts the words have been used in.