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Old 28-10-2010, 11:42 PM #39
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Originally Posted by BB_Eye View Post
You can't pretend something as sensuous, dangerous and unpredictable as love can be subordinate to all that 'getting to know eachother' malarkey and your personal value judgements. Sure those factors come into play when selecting a partner, but it's more useful for being good friends than lovers, which is necessary for a marriage, NOT for love.

So my answer is yes.
Good answer. You know, I watched a documentary once ages ago that came to the conclusion that smells are terribly important to us too in selecting a mate, ie. the natural smell of the other person.... it indicates to us on a certain level whether we would have healthy babies. Honestly, sounds mad but they did tests on the principle, with most people going for their perfect genetic match just from their smell alone - they were all blindfolded.

So yeah, who's to say we don't work the same way visually? That there's other forces at work when we select a partner other than the "what's your starsign/do you come her often/what do you want outta life" stuff. Something more primal I suppose. Maybe not love or lust... something different.
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