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Originally Posted by lostalex
A Wife didn't "have" to work? so you think women only work now because they have to?? No, women work more because women WANT to work, women have way MORE opportunities. My mom was a working mom, and if she lived in the 50's she'd be miserable, she'd have no chance to excel in her field back then. She told me stories about how when she went to school back then, they told her she could only be a nurse, secretary, or a teacher. Women got paid literally pennies on the dollar back then.
I guess you don't watch Mad Men.
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This debate we're having just criss-crosses so many broad areas.
Before I respond to your latest post, let me ask out of idle curiousity: are a "dude or a dudette"?
(I'm a dude, btw)
It's good that women want to work, I suppose, because that's what must happen if they are to support a family. However, the child will grow up to be smarter and more emotionally healthy when the mother is around. I view it as a perogative when the woman doesn't have to work and has the option of staying at home and raising the family. I'm a man and I must work. There's no way around that. And right now I'm determined and working towards getting a great job in the Actuarial field. You have to have some skills in mathematics
(which I do 
) but there is a lot of money making potential. I want to get a job where the pay is so great that when I get married and have kids I want my wife to have the perogative of staying at home. Of course I would never forcefully push her to stay at home or even strongly push the idea but I trust that once she has a kid mother nature will kick in and she'll want to spend less time working and spend more time raising kids. That's how it was when my mother had me (she quit her business) and that's how it is right now with my older sister. My older sister had some very passionate feminist views when she was younger but now that she has a kid, she wants to quit her job as a lawyer (even though it is part time). She is still working, ironically enough, because her husband doesn't want her to quit.
Basically females are hard-wired to want to be close to and raise their kids. That's how it is and that's how it should be if we want to survive as a species. You can want to work and I believe you want to work but, at least my experience shows, once you have a kid, biology, hormones, whatever you call it, kick in. So I view it as a perogative when the woman has the option to stay at home and not work (which I'd love to give any wife of mine).