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Originally Posted by joeysteele
Of course you should say your take on it too, you are very understanding anyway.
I was just putting how I would react and feel, I am only 19 but have seen already many different reactions to deaths of loved ones.
One of my cousins when my Grandmother died decided she wanted us to play monopoly,it was her way of dealing with it and hiding real emotion.
I have friends who went out and got drunk after the loss of a loved one,others just sat there silent not wanting to do anything or see anyone.
Some went quiet or got snappy, others broke down and cried for ages,others made jokes of things and giggled and laughed at silly things.
Life has already taught me that there are no norms as to reactions when someone dies that's close to you but I do believe for sure that BB will have thoroughly checked out everything was fully correct before anyone finally was allowed to and got to talk to Tom in person at the BB house.
He's among virtual strangers, he likely hadn't a clue how to react,just like Aaron and some others who when hearing Tom's Grandfather had died didn't seem to know what to do and say.
If I was running BB he would be asked if he wanted to go to the funeral,if he said he did want to attend it then I would have someone go with him and bring him back after the service,out of basic compassion. The other question is would his Grandfather have wanted him at his funeral, I'd bet of course he would.
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Oh I realise that we all deal with things differently and I do not find fault in any of what you have described above.
The part I found strange was: this was only 20 MINUTES after the news.
I'm cynical and that's me. I'm not saying I am right, or that he was wrong, we all react very very differently.
I know when I experienced the call to tell me when my first grand parent died: I was about 23? not much older than Tom and as cold and callous as I can be, I still couldn't have cracked a joke in the first 30minutes.
Differnt folks, different stroke, and he is in a very weird situation.