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Originally Posted by Zee
I dunno really, I feel like I'm asking for opinions because I don't feel bad and think I should be feeling bad? Or maybe I do feel bad and think I don't, I'm not sure.
I think it'd be pretty awful to say to her that I think she's being a buzz kill, because if she's acting that way due to feeling homesick then that'd only make her feel worse and there's not much I can do to help her out without making an effort to go hang out with her... which isn't something I particularly want to do, because of her attitude. Well there are a couple of others from our group of friends a few hours away and we were thinking of all going to Berlin to hang out at some point before Christmas which would be a nice group get together; and if she was still being weird then, then at least it would be in a larger group of people so it wouldn't bring the mood down as much. The thing is that the three girls went to the zoo (I had other plans) and she still was acting like that - I'm not sure if the four of us doing something together would be any different to that? I just feel a bit weird because on the one hand, we are friends at the end of the day and I'd hate to think she's really upset and that in some way I'm making that worse; but on the other hand we're all on a year abroad, we've all been thrown in at the deep end and it is up to each of us to make the most of it, do I compromise that to cheer up someone who has had the same chances as I have to make herself feel good? Aarrrggh it's been on my mind for the past month, but it's only really annoying me today because she posted that "I don't fit in anywhere" thing on Facebook this morning...
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..you're not the reason she's upset, and you shouldn't feel that you're making it worse...harsh as it may sound, people are responsible for their own happiness and making the most of their time there..that's what the rest of you are doing. If she can't realise herself, that she's holding herself back and missing out because of her mood..then unfortunately she's going to miss out on the fun..that sounds harsh...but we can't live our lives for other people, especially if they're not people in our own friendship circles. I'm sure she feels bad and left out and that is very sad, but there's only one person that can change that...that's her...Don't feel guilty for just having fun and enjoying your life...the only difference between you and her is you're enjoying your opportunities and making the most of them....she is not...